It is secualr society that has taken the lead in opposing homophobia and mysogyny. Theology has had to adapt to changing social mores. Those factions of religion that refuse to adapt are increasingly marginalised and irrelevant. But why did the more enlightened religions need secular sources to enlighten them?
I get the feeling that you're limiting your definition of theology to a certain religious ilk. Similar to the theory of evolution humanity's understanding of the Divine comes by way of a gradual process. That process has been in play for an extremely long time. The ancient religions are having a hard time, yes, but the one's they inspired are flourishing. There has never been a better time for spiritual groups because there is so much raw data to go from. The internet has bascially put history into the laps of the common man. They can finally take all the data and compile it for themselves. The newer religions of today (including many reformations of ancient religions) don't have near the problem of homophobia and misogyny as the older one's do. That's because, like everything else, theology is evolving.
The experiment of Religion, powered by the evolution of theology, has given us a large amount of "not" data about God. "God is NOT a bad guy" for instance. That's an incredible epiphany because there IS reason to beleive he might have been (as you so passionately debate). Theology sets that matter straight by explaining WHY God is good, rather than bad. Like a king trying to convince his people to serve him rather than lord over them.
The problem is that theology has always been uniquely human. Which means it comes with the potential to be misused and is not perfect. It was grossly misused to the point where some will question if it's even worth pursuing at all.
I think this is an important theological question:
If God could live in the modern world without knowledge of Himself, would he believe in a higher power?