by KariOtt 39 Replies latest jw friends
Apostasy
Apostasy is a standing away from, a falling away, defection, rebellion, abandonment ; it involves teaching false doctrines, supporting or promoting false religion and its holidays or interfaith activities.
I dare say that would include buying one's wife a cross as an anniversary gift, too?
Like Lisa said, you're going to both have to be willing to make concessions if you expect an interfaith marriage to work (jgnat can provide real-life accounts of that).
Adam
I'm the one who left the bedroom. Since he wouldn't shut up about the whole mess.
No he is not physically abusive. Not yet.
This is a list that I use at work in situations where I suspect a patient might be in an abusive relationship. Take from it what you will, take note of the points that apply.
The Eight Types of Abuse
These lists of abuse are based on one made by men who were describing how they controlled or harmed their wives or girlfriends. Remember, a single act may not be abuse. But if someone is doing something to harm or control you ... then, YES, it is abuse. You have the right to be treated with respect and to feel safe in your home.
* Indicates acts which are clearly criminal, or may be criminal depending on the circumstances.
Emotional/Psychological/Verbal Abuse
Emotional abuse around reproduction, pregnancy and childbirth
Environmental Abuse
In the home
In the vehicle
Social Abuse
Using children
During separation or divorce
Financial abuse
Ritual abuse
Physical abuse
Sexual abuse
Religious abuse
Wow Scully, what an exhaustive list.
Unfortunately I have experienced a few of thoes thing.
Ms. Ott, I wish you the best, but it doesnt sound like this is going well for you. try to become financially independet, get a job or a skill in case this doesnt work out.
Why do you no longer have a facebook account? Your decision or something your hubby wanted?
Listen girl. Reopen that Facebook account pronto. if you closed it on your own that's a mistake. Delete your SIL comments and block her. If she doesn't like it tough! If he deleted it, he is a moron. You are a grown woman. If you want an online account it is your choice. You need to set some boundaries. He CANNOT delete YOUR account. That is just dumb. Hang in there!
Kari,
He is right....it is a disfellowshipping offense. IF you are baptized. If you left the room because he wouldn't shut up about it, it just seems like a fight. You guys are going to need to find a way to coexist. He isn't (or doesnt' for now), feel like you do, and you want to be able to go to your new church. So you guys are going to have to make peace with each others choices. You included.
You can catch more flys with honey than vinegar. You aren't going to get far by telling him his religion is bunk and then arguing with him.
KARIOTT - When an appropriate time affords it, ask your husband for his opinion on baptism - why do we do it?
Listen to what he says is the reason, and then open your Bible at Acts 2:38, and explain to him exactly why you got baptized!
Gently point out that you did not sign up to an organization, religion, or any crusade - you simply followed the Scriptural counsel which shows how you can become reconciled with your Heavenly Father, through Christ's sin-atoning sacrifice - nothing more!
He cannot deny the Scriptural reason for baptism - and it may get him to question why other conditions are being added to it by some!
My best wishes to you for a satisfying outcome.
One thing you'll take notice within situations like this is that ingrained devoted JWS will lie and deceive when something
comes up that darkens or taints the image of the organization (WTS), they have been told to actual lie when appropriate given
certain circumstances.
All part of the indoctrination process of becoming a JWS.
Fact : the JW organization is a very high controlling religious cult.
Most likely construed since it was created by deviously concocted doctrines by a publishing house.
