In one of your posts above you said he isn't physially abusive "yet".
You're already being emotionally abused, I think you know that
Oops I did it again. Another mistake
by KariOtt 39 Replies latest jw friends
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JWOP
I would keep the Bible study with the elder..... and then start "innocently" asking all kinds of uncomfortable questions: The pedophilia policies, why the GB can't seem to get God's words right if they are His channel, show the flip flops of new light that have happened in the past, etc. etc. I'll bet your study will close up shop really quick!
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jgnat
If I recall correctly, your hubby has the passwords to all your online accounts. You don't have his. He has trust issues. He does untrustworthy things, like cheat. You've let him tread waaay all over your boundaries. Why?
The reactions and responses (both sides) seem so extreme.
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Scully
perfect1:
It's not actually an exhaustive list. I've kept it for well over a decade - so things like cell phones, social media and internet use are not addressed.
I would certainly include something to the effect of "compelling her to delete social media pages, blogs, etc. that he does not approve of" and any other bullying behaviour.
One of my biggest concerns is the social isolation he and his relatives are trying to impose. That is part and parcel of the BITE Model of Cult Indoctrination: Behaviour Control, Information Control, Thought Control and Emotional Control. If a person can be isolated, it helps to facilitate cult manipulation and indoctrination.
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losingit
excellent list, Scully
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DATA-DOG
I never realized how abusive I was before finding TTATT, before reading that list. That's what the Organization does to boys. They become abusive. The only way to "progress" in the Organization is to be abusive on some level. As mentioned before, JW's are trained to lie. Worldly "lice" do not deserve the truth. So even the nicest "sheep" Elder will choose the Organization over another human. At that instance, no matter how sweet and meek eberyone thinks they are, they are a "wolf."
Realizing the tendency to abuse others in order to attain theocratic privliges in myself, and then seeing it in others was a HUGE part of waking up to TTATT. Thank God I took the red pill!
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Jeffro
Scully:
This is a list that I use at work in situations where I suspect a patient might be in an abusive relationship. Take from it what you will, take note of the points that apply.
Some scary things on that list. I counted 30 things each I remember that my parents used to do to each other (their might be more I've forgotten or wasn't aware of). 8 items with asterisks for my father, but only 1 for my mother. I guess we had things pretty easy.
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snare&racket
Jesus.... That is not a relationship, it is a dictatorship.
why bother to not be a JW if you have to live by their rules anyway... Your husband is not behaving well.
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losingit
What if you're a JW male that's not going for privileges . What are the excuses then? A real sheep is torn apart by JWs . No wonder I felt like I never fit in.
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KiddingMe
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