by Markw1509 65 Replies latest watchtower scandals
There's two courts here; one legitimate and the other kangaroo. Let's talk about the legitimate court first.
You have rights to see your child. Fight for that through the secular courts. You have an obligation to pay alimony/child support. Honor that.
In the kangaroo court, you are persona non grata. If the wife keeps this up she will get in trouble with the secular court. Let her feel the pain of ignoring Caesar.
Tough love her: Do you really want your daughter to think that you do not want to support her financially, nor will you fight to see her? She is being manipulated by your wife and the religion, but some day she might start to think for herself and want a relationship, she might then feel, and rightly so, that you gave up on her. Pay your child support, that is your legal and moral obligation, but fight for visitation. You owe that to your daughter, no matter what your wife has done.
Pay your child support no matter what, kids know when dad's don't and will resent it. The alimony sounds like it was court ordered and there is not much you can do about it unless you back to court.
Maybe you need a new lawyer? Check out this site, maybe they can help with more visitation?
maybe things are different here in the UK--but if a court gives you "defined access" to your kid---and your ex wont co-operate--there is nothing you can do about it. believe me. can you seriously imagine taking a police officer with you to enforce an access visit !!
how many ex wives are in prison for ignoring a court order---? there are more single mums in prison for not paying their TV licence.
Do you write a check to the "ex" each month? Write "For maintenance AND Christmas Presents" in the notes section. Use any coming up holiday as you choose. When the "ex" cashes it, she is then being complicit in the holiday. Tell her if she doesn't want to buy any Christmas presents with it. Just don't cash the check. Sounds like she is playing the game with you. Time to play back. Use this to see your daughter.
They can take your money. If you were an apostate and left money in your will to the branch, they would take that too. There is never NOT a good reason to use "unrighteous riches".
In the case of your daughter, why would you not be granted visitation? Especially if you are paying alimony?
If you have visitation rights set in your final Divorce agreement, the ex could be breaking the law by instigated a total shunning toward yourself.
The alimony payments or child support payments would stand irregardless of religious attachment.
religious preference is irrelevant when it comes to paying child support and/or alimony. it is a decision of the court - and an honorable man will see to it that his offspring is provided for no matter what or where the mom is and what her attitude may be toward him. the child deserves parental support and if the only way it is going to get to them is via $$$, at least that kid will grow up knowing that his/her dad was there repsonisibly providing for him/her.
paying alimoney--or child maintenance--has nothing whatsoever with accesss rights.
as regards these payments--its all to do with the ability to pay. here in the UK--we have the CSA--which is simply a tax on fathers to pay based on their income. it is hated.
ive known dads pay up child maintenance--only to find its used to fund the ex's drink or drug habits--plus any loser she may have shacked up with.
(no--i dont mean JW's )
i think the islamics have the right idea: muslim men who have married UK women --and started a family--if it goes tits-up they simply abscond back to their homeland --taking their sprogs with them---then let mummy go through all the pain of trying to get the kids back. fat chance.
If you are paying child support you have a right to see your daughter. Do not give up! Make arrangements through the court to have her twice a month or whatever works for you and stick with it. Take your daughter on your weekends and have a fun time and let her know how much you love her so that when she is grown she will know how much her Dad loves her.
Don't play by the JW rules, they are not the law, they think they are but in a legal court they don't have a leg to stand on when it comes to children needing both parents. As far as spousal support there is nothing in the JW rules that would tell them not to take the money. If you are being left out of your daughters life get yourself a better attorney that will fight for your rights as a parent. You should be told what is going on in her life and the court can enforce that.
