Dear LisaRose
1) you wrote: Really? An eternity of pain?
The dogmas of the church are only approximations too, the theologians and historians have to explain who the pain came into the hell.
The church can only follow Jesus Christ and what we have received in the scriptures. The modern teachers say that Jesus words are merely warnings of the consequences of loosing gods friendship, loosing gods mercy and love, by choise and free will, to constantly black-hearted denial of gods loving hands, by choosing deliberatly a way of wilfully sinning maybe.
Reading the bible we often meet Jesus saysings and phrases or figure of speeches in parabels that indicate severe consequences of going the broad way. I remember at the moment the words "the broad way into destruction" or "eternal fire" or "gehenna" or "jugement day" or "eternal judgment", "baest and goasts" and even the "poor lazarus and the rich man" and "certainly Armageddon too.
All these phrases are only giving emphazise to the subject of seriousness , but there is not a literal fire or a literal punishment or any pain in Jesus words (i read about his matter in abook of Pope Benedikt)
Jesus used evidently the common phrases and that were used by the normal people in Judea at that time and not aloofed words or complicated theology.
He spoke this sayings mostly to uneducated people. So all the saysing of judgment day an so on where already common known in the Jewish community.
There were the apocalytic sects, Essens..., and reform movements, something like the great awakeing in the 19th centeruy in america, perhaps jesus even had contact with Essens, and John the baptist was a pupil of them, because many words in the new testament have been found in the sciriputers of the essens. Why i am saying this? Because the sayings of the apocalyptic sects where well known like the preaching work of Jehovas witnesses today John said "repent and get batized in the jordan": Maybe Jesus even put up and overtook most of Essens sayings, and so it came into the Bible too. The saysing have it source in a completety other religious and social and educational background as today.
2. You wrote: yet some believe that God will do this for eternity, because a person was born in the wrong country, so worshipped another God, or chose the wrong flavor of Christianity or simply didn't find the evidence for God compelling or believable.
I am preparing an answer.
Greetings