Wives who complain about their husbands work schedule but refuse to get a job

by hoser 39 Replies latest jw friends

  • Legacy
    Legacy

    Hi,

    That not only happens in the hall but in life as well...How many wives complain that their husbands work long hours, but the wife won't work, but will she drive a cheaper car..NO....a husband can't be in 2 places at the same time...if you want him home then do something to assist him...maybe get your nails & hair done less. Some woman just wanted to get married so they can stay home & not work....aka: Selfish. I do understand, that if you have children, you may spend more money on babysitting, etc. But my parents both worked...& I'm ok...Many of the sisters just want to pioneer full-time & that's ok, but if one listens to the parts at our assemblies...many of the couples sat down & made plans of how they would be able to do this. Count the cost...but many of the friends be male or female....never wanted to work...so when they hear about pioneering & God will provide, meaning the congregation will help...that's music to their ears...the same folks would be on public assistance....they would lean on anything or anybody. The more I'm in the hall, most of the friends hate their jobs....but I think it's deeper than that, I think they hate working ...period...but one thing they don't hate the money....I hear it all the time in their comments...oh my job is so stressful, blah blah blah...a job is what you make it...if they really want to know what stress is...open up your frig & no food, or you have to sleep on the park bench, or if your child wants food...now that's stress....In reality most of us don't want to work but we have to.

    Witnesses... some...ar just a bunch of complainers & whinners...little kids dressed up in adult costumes. They want paradise now, so they can't deal with the realities of this present life...they are so paradise bound, they are no earthly good.

    Legacy

  • DJS
    DJS

    talesin,

    What I stated is true; you may not like it, but it is true. Is it as commonplace as it once was? I doubt it, but others are weighing in saying the same thing I'm saying. My personal experience is the same as others. Men sometimes ride on women's earnings; society is NOT kind to such men. Women can do it with impunity. Agree or not doesn't change the facts. It's the same thing in the dating world; women rarely if ever pick up the tab or even offer. A little bit of research rather than saying cutting and untrue things to me would change your mind. If you wish, I will do the research for you and present it here. That will give you an opportuntiy to apologize, admit you were wrong, remain silent or provide equally compelling data (which you can't do). Those are your only grown up options.

  • AndDontCallMeShirley
    AndDontCallMeShirley

    That will give you an opportuntiy to apologize, admit you were wrong, remain silent or provide equally compelling data

    Don't hold your breath, brother.

  • DJS
    DJS

    ADCMS,

    Yeah, I know Tal's history. I've never locked horns with her, but she is so wrong on this one it will be like clubbing baby seals. The wealth of data which completely refutes her rant is overwhelming. In the grown-up world in which I live, she has those 4 options. Actually 3, since she will never be able to support her rants. Admit, apologize, remain silent. Anything else is a shrill whiney rant.

  • GrreatTeacher
    GrreatTeacher

    Years ago you could support a family on one income. Now you can't in most cases.

  • hoser
    hoser
    I was in the same car group as her in the ministry on Saturday.   She was complaining as usual.  Someone else in the group was purposely prodding her to complain and then making light of it.   Guess she's just a chronic whiner. 
  • Vidiot
    Vidiot
    A long time ago, I came to the conclusion that as crazy as it sounds, some people just aren't happy unless they're miserable.
  • hoser
    hoser
    Her hubby got injured at work so she went and got a job.
  • smiddy
    smiddy

    Ditto Vidiot , I agree wholeheartedly.I know a few personally.

    smiddy

  • Viviane
    Viviane
    Men sometimes ride on women's earnings; society is NOT kind to such men.

    Yep. I was the main breadwinner in our family due to my work in technology and willingness to step up and take on new technology and projects. That was fine with me, of course. The pioneering was fine (back then, now I would not tolerate that), the wage differential was fine, then, as now, I gave no thought to the other sisters talking about it. I actively avoided talking about work and money (even though everyone else did) because I made far more than even the most well employed brother in the hall (and what I make now puts then to shame).

    The part that killed me was his constant complaints about me working, the time I would spend, missing a meeting every now and then, only getting 8 or 9 hours a month in FS and having to hear about how I was putting career first and maybe I should look at getting a different job and just working 8-5 in an office instead of having to travel or work late at home.

    Guess what? That shiny new camper with 3 queen beds and a shower you just bought isn't going to pay for itself. The golf clubs aren't going to pay for themselves. All that expensive fly fishing gear and trips to go fly fishing and lessons to go fly fishing aren't going to pay for themselves. That new snowboard isn't going to pay for itself.

    Here's a tip. You want me to work less and take a lower paying job? Quit fucking spending money. And do a load of laundry and have dinner ready when I get home once in a while. Don't call me at 6 PM when I am on my way (and left at 6:45 AM) home complaining there's no dinner for you and the kids when you've been "out in service" all day and grass hasn't been cut and dishes need washing.

    Sorry, that got away from me a bit.

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