JW funeral and I am DF'd (page 2)

Been there

((((((((Viv)))))))

We have missed you. Sorry to hear about your Grandmother. You sit right up front with the rest of the family. You've earned that right. The Jerks. Last I heard funerals were open seating. It would also be nice if you could get up and say a few loving words about her. It sounds like you have a loving family (no matter what). Our thoughts will be with you over the next few weeks. Give your Mom and Grandma a hug from us for being sane.

May our LOVING God bless you and comfort you in your time of pain.

Francois

Sit in the back of the bus - er, I mean, sit in the back of the Hall? The JW elders view this as he ultimate and final mark of their authority over you.

If it were me, I'd walk in early with my family with my held high and facing forward, not looking left nor right, and plop my ass right in the middle of the first row and ignore the bastards from then on. What are they going to do, send Guido over to bodily pick you up and carry you to the back row to throw you in a seat back there? If someone comes toward you like they're going to say something to you, give them a look that says, "Open your mouth and die, JW scum." You'll know what to do.

Let us know how it goes?

- francois

bigfloppydog

So sorry about your Grandmother.

If it was me, I would sit with my family. They (elders) have no right to tell you what to do. They will only get away with it if you allow them to. If they question you, just express, you are here to pay your respects to your grandmother, and chose to be with your family. They will most likely leave it alone and not make a scene.

Vivamus

Thank you all for your imput and kind words. I will definately let you all know how it went, when the time comes.

Hugs to you all, Viv.

Had Enough

I'm so sorry you have to deal with these insensitive yahoos as well as with your emotions about losing your Grandma.

I agree with all the others, that you DO NOT have to sit at the back of the hall even if asked to move. That is OLD stuff. They haven't seen the NEW LIGHT yet. You deserve to sit right at the front WITH your family without any repercussions to your JW family later.

PLEASE NOTE: I had a similar situation with a df'd family member coming to a JW relative's funeral just this year.

The df'd family member sat with us. He talked with us. We hugged. AND several elders and their wives talked with him AND hugged him too. I was asked later by one elder, if we noticed that display of love to him and how nice it was for them to be able to do to that since the Society DOES ALLOW them to show sympathy to a df'd family member at his relative's funeral.

So be strong. They have NO authority over you.

Had Enough

LovesDubs

Welcome back HOME Viv. Makes me sicker and sicker every time I hear about these heartless idiots doing this to people. You go and sit with your family. I dare say if the elders start any crap with you your own family with put a sock in his mouth about it!!

And...Im sure you know that your gramma WANTS you to be up there with your family and not treated like pond scum in her own hall!

hugs

twain30

I'm sorry about your grandmother. Sit in the front of the Hall. If any elder would choose to make an issue of this it would be very foolish because they would appear very cruel to at least some of those in attendance and it could also result in rheams of bad publicity for them.

minimus

PLEASEEEEEEE SIT WHERE YOU WANT!!! Nobody should put this type of pressure on you at a time like this.

Matty

((((((Vivamus))))))

It seems like some Witness Elders think so much about dogma and protocol and their precious organisation's name that l ove, empathy and consideration for the feelings of other people seem to come last.

Your mum and your gran are wonderful loving people despite being witnesses not because of being witnesses.

breeze

Expect anything......

Their strength comes from a commitment that is superhuman and that could mean taking you out by force. You are on their turf now, don't forget that. They are more pious and than you can imagine?

The one good thing is that your Grand Ma won't see whatever they do....

GOOD LUCK!!!!

BREEZE

Edited by - breeze on 3 September 2002 10:15:38

JW funeral and I am DF'd

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