And don't forget, wear a big cross to the KH too. Everytime I go (which ain't often, I have a weak stomach for that B.S.) I take my bible with the big cross on the front and make sure as many people can see it as possible.
JW funeral and I am DF'd
by Vivamus 38 Replies latest jw friends
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Mimilly
Viv - yes honey - you were definitely missed. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((VIV))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Sit with your family in the hall. The elders are not gonna take on a whole family at the front of a hall when there is preaching work to be done from the pulpit! Their making an issue out of it AT the hall would not serve their purpose of using every occasion, even funerals, to suck people into the void.
Sounds like your family is with you - put a deaf ear to the elders honey.
Thinking of you ..... be good to you sweetheart.
Mimilly
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LoneWolf
Hi, Viv.
For what it's worth, I've been DFed for about 15 years now and have always sat where ever I blamed well pleased. Never got any crap about it either. Stand up for what you know is right and don't compromise.
Sorry you're having hard times.
LoneWolf
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Hmmm
Viv,
I'm a bit late to the party, but I concur with everyone else--sit where you wish. Why give those clueless followers of the clueless any authority?
What's more, don't let them pressure you into staying away as your grandmother's time gets shorter. Years from now you don't want to look back and regret that you didn't spend more time with your grandma because they made you feel uncomfortable.
Hmmm
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ozziepost
Just popping in to sat hi to Hmmm. Where's ya been? Missed ya but nice to see ya around.
Cheers, Ozzie
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KungFu
Well, my advice is just not to sweat it. Remember, you aren't bound by the JW rules and she is your family. The thing is, the elders requesting you to sit in the back makes no sense. I mean, usually DFed people sit in the back so they can make a quick exit. Not because it's some rule. And I've seen DFed people sit in the hall with their family before, so I have no idea why the elders would think you should do otherwise at the funeral. Also, the best thing you can do is learn not to care what other people think. Respecting beliefs is okay. There's just no need to let their rules bind you. See, I don't play the DFed game where the DFed person doesn't say anything to a JW. Their rules, not mine. I'm the same nice person. So I'll greet a JW. The funny thing is JWs are scared to greet me back, I guess because I'm evil. hahahahaha
Hope that helped some
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BONEZZ
Viv...Sit where you please. Why should you worry about their silly-ass rules? The brain-dead morons won't do anything to disrupt the occasion, especially if there are others observing. They like to do their dirty deeds behind closed doors with no witnesses. If they were to be stupid enough to insult you, you might as well make it into a free-for-all fight so it will get into the newspapers. I think the average person with some compassion in their heart would take your side if they hear what they want you to do.
That is why I am always eager to tell by-standers if I am being shunned. Normal people just don't understand their absurd rules. Being DF'd you have joined the ranks of the normal. Hope it all works out.
-BONEZZ
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sunshineToo
Viv,
I'm with the others; sit wherever you want. Are there going to be non-jw visitors? If there are, I don't think the elders can do much. They have to look nice, you know.
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amac
I do agree that you should sit where you want, but to avoid the possibility of a scene that could disgrace your grandma's funeral (not that it would be your fault, but it would still be good to avoid) I would call the elder that told you this and tell him to quit being a Pharisee and that you will sit where you want and that if he has problems with it he should call Bethel to find out that he is wrong.