Please Accept My Most Heartfelt.......... (page 2)

Englishman

As with many things humans do, some of us tend to quickly say "I'm sorry", and then next thing you know, "we've gone and done that very thing again".

I tend to respond too quickly and sometimes regret that I didn't engage my brain before putting my mouth into gear. So I do have to apologise quite frequently for the same fault, although I have learned something here: I always seeme to do it on a Monday evening!

The reason is that Monday night is quiz night at the pub. When you've spent 2 hours + racking your brains for answers, one can be a touch hyper!

So I'm always careful on Monday night.....

Englishman.

butalbee

Thanks for the link, Eman!

Francois

In my opinion, only mature, adult, sincere men and women are capable of a genuine apology.

Many people mistake the gentleness which issues from true strength as a manifestation of weakness. Nothing could be further from the truth. Remember The Master? A gentle man, tender of feeling, loving and compassionate; but he was also a Spirit Master and Creator Son of a vast universe; easily the most powerful man alive at the time - but gentle and forgiving.

Good for you Eman, a real man.

francois

DJ

Hi E-man!!

You are certainly not alone. I think that when a person apologizes and the apology is genuine then the matter should be dropped. What else can you do, get on your knees and kiss their feet??? If you said that your'e sorry and make an effort to change...well they ought to forgive ya! Unless of course......?? No, never mind. love, dj

hillary_step

Hello,

I concur with Francois. A person who is capable of a genuine apology is to be respected.

I have no problem apologizing if I have done something to hurt another person and will apologize even when I am convinced that I am right about the issue at hand, if I can see it is going to save a person pain or embarrasment.

It must be mentioned however, that Emerson once noted, 'No sensible person ever apologized'. Given this statement I now apologize for being senseless.

HS

WildHorses

Englishman,

I don't think it show weakness to apologise. I'll even apologise if I think i'm right. Life is to short to hold grudges.

jack2

Good replies! I think apologizing is indeed something that shows strength, not weakness. It should be done without subtly or overtly trying to pass blame or imply that the receiver is somehow being overly sensitive....for example - "I'm sorry that you felt offended at what I said" is no real apology. I feel it should be made unconditionally and with sincerity. It then will hopefully be accepted, and then both parties can move on.

Satanus

You are addressing the idea of a genuine apology. What about an apology that is issued conditionally, with the condition that it must be accepted, or the demeaning recommences? What about an apology with the objective of maintaining or enhancing the image of the apologiser? What about an apology whose basic thought was not felt in the heart of the apologiser? Would that not be an empty apology?

SS

Edited by - saintsatan on 25 September 2002 14:20:42

Englishman

What about an apology whose basic thought was not felt in the heart of the apologiser? Would that not be an empty apology?

It's a good point IMHO. But then.......when I think of the rare times that HL and I have had a disagreement, all I wanted to do was to make up, stuff who was right or wrong.

What was wrong was that we were having a disagreement!

Englishman.

hillary_step

What about an apology whose basic thought was not felt in the heart of the apologiser? Would that not be an empty apology?

Well, who can judge the heart? Some people may sound apologetic and yet hold a deep-seated grudge, others may not sound as apologetic as one might hope but be truly sorry at heart. The sensible thing is to give the benefit of the doubt and not add fuel to the fire by possibly misreading a situation.

Apologies to all for my past apologies which may not have sounded like genuine apologies, but actually were genuine apologies.

HS

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