Regarding Tombstones

by joelbear 40 Replies latest jw friends

• 

  Mulan

  A great book to read on self love, and goals, is "Self Matters" by Phil McGraw. He really tells it like it is.

  Joel, the love your family has for you is still love, no matter how you define it. Reach out to them, and they might be exactly what you need.

  A suggestion: Don't talk about your lifestyle. My relationship with my mother and father has never been about my sex life. Yours doesn't have to be either. Try to focus on other things in your life, when you are with them. It might make a difference.
• 

  Xandria

  I saw a tombstone once that had the inscription, " I TOLD you I was sick."

  Xandria
• 

  Kenneson

  Joelbear,

  I don't know what to say to make you feel better about yourself. If I did, believe me I would. But I will say this from my heart. I know you're hurting, but please keep on reaching out. I remember when I first started on this Board and I would see a lot of your posts and they were good. Then you kind of phased out and I wondered why. Now I can see you have been having some hard times. But if nothing else, please keep the lines of communication open. Please go talk to someone. One thing I have learned is that a burden shared becomes half a burden. Don't carry this weight all by yourself. You don't have to. And remember there are people on this Board who love and care about you--even if they have never met you personally. If you have no one else to share with, we are here for you.
• 

  Adam

  I would want something whimsical and stupid like "Don't fall in, I smell bad." And I am going to put in my will that I want "Highway to Hell" played at my funeral, anyone who interferes with that wish will forefit anything bequiethed to them, that bequiethment to be divied among the rest of the recipients.
• 

  LyinEyes

  I had to laugh at the one Xandria put up........... like an "I told ya so", thing...lol.

  Really, I just can't think of how a person is alive , brain thinking, heart beating, all the knowledge they have, the feelings, and within 3 or 4 minutes,,,,,, all of it is gone? I just can't believe this is all there is....... how precious life is , is too scarey, it troubles me to think of someone giving it all up, even as I have before. Joel, I know you are in pain, but I wish you a happy life, so bad it hurts.

  My mom used to love to tell me songs she loved and why,,,,,,, I am thankful that she did and even at an age too young to fully understand what she meant,,,,, I was able to keep them and have her words for when I needed them. It was like she was preparing me for one day not have her, and to understand her.

  She loved the song, The Way We Were,,,,,,,,,,, "what's too painful too remember , we simply choose to forget,,,,,,,,, but it's the laughter , we will remember , whenever we remember the way we were". I think that was important to her , for me to remember her laughter, which I still do,,,,, I still hear her laughter in my dreams.

  I Will Always Love You,,,,,,,,,,,,,," Goodbye , please don't cry, because we both know I'm not what you need,,,,, but I will always love you, I hope life treats you kind, and I hope you get all you've ever dreamed of, I wish you joy, I wish you happiness , but above all these I wish you love". That was her favorite line in that song, and she would cry out on the swing under our tree, humming that song. I didnt understand her pain back then, I was just a girl. I am sorry, but I still get tears in my eyes remembering her and all the few memories that I have of her. I just want to hug her , and tell her how valuable she really was.

  Joel,,,,,,,, you are too. I bet anything my mom would not have ended her life if she could have found a way out. There really wasnt anyone to help her find that way out, a new life. Joel, there are alot of people here who wish they could reach thru this computer and just grab you and hug you and say, please don't leave us. Stand with us and prove that no matter who , or what cult, or what life throws us,,,,,, we are going to fight every step of the way. At least that is what I think my mom would say to you,,,,,, and what I feel my mom has said to me in my lowest of times. It is hard to think clearly when you are so down and hopeless, please find a way to heal....it will always be one day at a time, in recovery ,,,,,,,, but I have to believe life is worth it.
• 

  IronGland

  LOL detective.
• 

  COMF

  What do I want on my Tombstone?

  How about, "He had the same chance we all do, but he threw it away after emotionally blackmailing his internet friends for a while"?
• 

  alamb

  I want a granite bench instead of a headstone. So whoever passes by can sit and think about where you start and where you end up and what is in between that matters. Underneath will have a verse about making a difference, for those that know it's there. It will be a place to contemplate and rest...I hope.
• 

  breeze

  My image of Joelbear???
• 

  Bendrr

  I don't want a tombstone. Or a grave either. I want to be cremated. After all my years of preaching about how meat is either rare or ruined, I want "well-done". Then collect the ashes and scatter them from Lovers' Point over Monterey Bay in California. That's where my grandfather's ashes flew to eternity and I want mine to follow his. And no damn funeral or wake either. Try and have a funeral service and my will dictates that the police will immediately disperse it with tear gas.

  Joel! Lay off the morbid death trip you big lovable huggy-bear! We need to talk. My email is unlocked. You can also call me anytime you need to talk and I do think you need to talk. Emailing you my number stat.

  Mike.