Is this a place for children? (page 12)

Mac

Xena,

Yer welcome darlin'! (don't recall you casting aspersions on people and elevating your self to the "champion of family values" position...... It's about credibility!)

come to chat so we can flirt with you ya sexy thing!

mac

xenawarrior

Xena:

I would also like to comment on this:

If there are 10 adults in the chat room doing whatever those 10 adults have determined they wish to at the time and a 12 year old appears on the scene- should those 10 adults be asked to totally switch gears to accomodate that child?

uuuuuummm yes they should...who are the ADULTS here? If my child walked into a room that wasn't specifically identified as an ADULT ONLY room and there was inappropriate behavior going on...I would like to think those adults would change their behavior because they ARE the adults.

You and I are going to have to disagree on this one then Xena. IF the child appeared on the scene and was asking for help or support about an issue, then certainly- I'm sure that all 10 adults present would totally switch gears and help that child.

IF the child was there to "hang out" with the adults then it's adults she's hanging out with and I'm sorry but I'm not inclined to change what I'm doing because that child's parent has given him/her permission to hang out with the adults. That child's parent (s) made that choice and it requires nothing from me. I am an adult and I do believe that in many cases, adults do have more privileges than children; especially 10 of them. If a child's parent makes a choice for their own child- so be it. That doesn't mean that other adults must do something special to accomodate that choice.

This is the way I feel about it. Anyone else can feel the way they wish to about it.

XW

P.S. Thank you for clarifying the XW and the Xena thing. I hope you'll provide the same disclaimer when things are more positive.- wanted to put a smiley in there but the font box is covering it up and I can't access it.

Xena

sssooo let me ask you this XW...you are in your room having sex....a child walks in....you gonna just keep going after it...after all it's YOUR room...and they really shouldn't be there....

BTW I have ALWAYS made a point of clarifying who I am when I feel people are confusing us.....

OH and mac..uuummm thanks but no thanks...

SheilaM

am an adult and I do believe that in many cases, adults do have more privileges than children; especially 10 of them.

What a sad, sad attitude. Funny, I feel as an ADULT that we should set an example for children and not laud our "privleges" over them. But that is just my opinion but then kids love me maybe because I try very hard to respect them, love them and NOT hurt their feelings!

animal

I was there.... saw it all .... and after reading all this, I dont care. I can solve my end of it by avoiding it and go to one that is child-free. I got one of those....

Animal

LB

Thank you Simon,I appreciate you being right on top of this.

These days I honestly wouldn't trust a 12 year old in any chat room. We've all heard the horror stories about child molestors preying in rooms made just for kids.

Xena (original Xena of course) I know all in chat would cool it if we knew a kid was in there. Just hard to tell who's a kid. Oh personally I stopped everytime my kids walked in on me. I didn't want them making fun.

Valis

sssooo let me ask you this XW...you are in your room having sex....a child walks in....you gonna just keep going after it...after all it's YOUR room...and they really shouldn't be there....

Xena...your comment is off point. You know better and are confusing the issue at hand, especially based on the evidence in this specific case..I know how you do things w/your child so don't play devil's advocate when it isn't necessary....there are times when the presence of children is not appropriate and you do a good job of moderating your own in circumstances that do not merit their presence. Give me that much credit please and and do not tell me you don't understand the difference between a child walking into the parent's bedroom and being in a public forum where people may not always be online who they are in life. Don't BS me please..

Sincerely,

District Overbeer

xenawarrior

sssooo let me ask you this XW...you are in your room having sex....a child walks in....you gonna just keep going after it...after all it's YOUR room...and they really shouldn't be there....

interesting analogy- If I'm in my room having sex, there isn't a child wandering around able to happen upon it. If there were a child who could wander in- I'd lock the door ahead of time.

How bout this one: You are with 10 adults and you are playing a board game. A child comes along and says- hey, I don't want to play that- let's play this game instead. Do you dump the game you are already playing with 10 other adults and do what the child wants or do you perhaps explain to the child that this is something that the group involved has already started and we can play her game or some other activity she might like at another time?

Sheila-

What a sad, sad attitude. Funny, I feel as an ADULT that we should set an example for children and not laud our "privleges" over them. But that is just my opinion but then kids love me maybe because I try very hard to respect them, love them and NOT hurt their feelings!

What kind of an example does it set for children that because they "appear" they get attention upon demand? I'm not "lauding my privileges" over them. And you know what? Kids love me too and I also try hard to respect them, love them and NOT hurt their feelings. I don't think it's fair to insinuate any differently because I feel the way I do about this. Ask my daughter's friends whose house they most like to hang out at. Kids also should have respect for adults. I did not try to hurt anyone's feelings here- especially not that of a child's. Does it occur to you that you may just have hurt my feelings with what you just inferred about me? I guess that's okay huh?

XW

SheilaM

XW:

You know that I have never had problems with you nor do I wish to hurt your feelings. But I know that you as an adult will get over your being hurt but a young girl that has lost her whole world may not for quite sometime. I am very angry that Vash was hurt I remember how my kids felt when they were hurt by the dubs and now she feels she has no place to "belong". I also adore Cassandra and Utopian R and I don't want to see them leave. As I said I feel this should have been said to Utopian Raindrops in a Personal Message not on the forum where it is debated and were Vash can be hurt more.

Mac

Sheila,

I've known Xenawarrior for almost a year now and am well aware of her feelings toward her own daughter and children in general. She is one of the most loving and respectful parents I,ve had the priveledge of knowing. She is strict , yet loving and affords them the dignity they certainly deserve. I think you may be misjudging her intent and meaning....in fact I'm certain of it. She's a single mom and I admire the way she and her daughter relate to each other..that doesn't come from diminishing the worth of that child. She's doing a hell of a job! IMO

mac

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