another aspect of it would be the history of how the working class have been treated in britain of hundreds of years and their lack of benifit from the empire, which has more or less created apathy, even resentment towards patriotism
That is very interesting. We have classes, however, they are only limited by your income. Look at any poor kid who made good and you see our perception.
In many countries in Europe, class distinction exists. Kings, Queens, Earls, Dukes, Sirs, etc. (Besides the Kennedy's we don't have royalty--) America has tax brackets. The higher your income, the more doors will open.
My thought is that if I can create the best widget in the world I will be better off (wealthy), be able to afford a better home in a better neighborhood and provide a future (education) for my children. This may be true in the UK, however, you still have a Queen and families who pass a title down, generation to generation.
We, as Americans, do take this open class system for granted. We are taught at an early age (even JW kids) that American history is like no other country. We fought for freedom and assume everyone wants freedom and equality.
No, America is not perfect. No country is. Everyone knows and accepts this.
I have no problem being an American. Would I prefer to be British? Only if I were in line for the kingdom.