How do women do it ????? Do you have no self respect ????? (page 2)

BLISSISIGNORANCE

Let's not forget that garbage should be covered over, so women wear HEAD COVERING when conducting a study or offering a prayer when a man is present.

i never looked good with a tea towel on my head lol

WildHorses

To all the women on this board, did this ever bother you as a JW, and does it bother you know ???

Hell yes, it bothered the ever living shyte out of me. Yes, it still bothers me. The only thing that a man can do better than a woman is to pee standing up. Other than that, we should be equal.

Robdar

I had nothing but contempt for the women in my congregation that were submissive to their men. It was one of the reasons I left the JWs. I used to dream of hiding my gender and infiltrating Bethel.

I am from the south and at the time all women thought it their duty to be submissive to their husbands. This is one reason I left the south and moved north, only to find the problem in the midwest too.

I still see this problem in society at large. Men get more respect from women (especially older women) in the work place.

Another thing, men always say that they want an intelligent wife. I have found this to not be true. My ex wanted a woman who was smart but not as smart as him. He also wanted to be head of the household with all final decisions left up to him. He did, however, want me to be intelligent enough to make lots of money that he could help me spend.

Robyn

Robdar

and do not lure any brothers into spiritual or physical fornication

Oh boy, the above pisses me off royally. Why is it the sister's fault if a man decides to fornicate with her?

Hmm, I guess the society is saying that men are morally weaker than women. If I was a brother, I don't know if I would put up with this veiled insult.

Robyn

nowisee

well, they ARE a regressive cult!

when i was in i used to lament the fact (sometimes with other female friends) that we could only go as far as our husbands in the organization. not a chance of being anything more than a pioneer (which i was) unless you had an ambitious husband.

honestly, i really think that i had fallen into the prestige trap that so many jws do. it is all about appearances and being stroked and looked up to. it takes distance to be able to see it.

now, i am thoroughly happy and grateful that i never was in a position of authority. think of all the bloodguilt so many of the men carry; all of the compromises of conscience and soul-selling that they do. now i feel as though i escaped that by virtue of being female.

but this was just a happy coincidence. in general i am totally against any sexism.

Lady Lee

I have to admit the teatowel thing was is pretty pathetic

BUT

would I really want to add preparing and giving those talks?

and going to people's homes to hear all their problems?

and serving on those judicial committees?

on top of everything else we had to do?

getting to meetings early to show a good example

~~staying late to show a good example~~ oops we did that anyways

Nope no way I was glad that I wasn't expected to rise to those occassions.

cruzanheart

I thought this thread was about pantyhose . . . . Seriously, though, I would gnash my teeth frequently at the condescension accorded to women at the KH. I was fortunate enough (or smart enough) to marry someone who has very enlightened views on women's roles, and treats me like a fellow human being with the same brainpower as himself. Or, as Big Tex likes to put it, "I don't feel comfortable ordering around someone who's older than me." Whatever!

Nina

teenyuck

The one thing my mother always said bothered her (and still does) was the *subjection* issue. She hates it. I hate it.

She told me just this past week that she does not believe it or condone it. She is totally against it.

That was encouraging.

IslandWoman

How do women do it??????

You mean how did we avoid being as JT puts it: "cheese cracker men"?

I don't know, lucky I guess!

Gee, I never sat in a crappy meeting with some crappy CO to hear all the crap from the Society.

I never disfellowshiped anyone.

I never wrote a lousy book telling other people what God wants them to do.

No, I didn't miss nothin' important or good!!!!

IW

caligirl

I hated it. Never was very good at the submissive role. The whole "women don't count" subject actually was a huge issue to my brother. I don't know how many like him are out there, but I wanted to interject that men do exist who do not like the whole women are a sub-species set up! He never has been able to stand the way women were treated and always said that the women should be treated equally in the congregation and at home. And we had these conversations as teenagers.

I found it particularly amusing when a poor sister had to scrounge in her purse for a kleenex to wear on her head when a brother showed up unexpectedly and didn't want to take "the lead" (and yes, that really happened) It all really is quite sickening.

How do women do it ????? Do you have no self respect ?????

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