My dad does NOT love me at all,,,,, sorry to be so blunt be he just can't by his actions. This goes way beyond just my d/a , he still blames me for him not being able to be an elder anymore.
Long, long story, but my mother committed suicide, after years of prescription drug abuse, years of living with him, which was also mental abuse. He left her for a sister in our congregation who was only 8 years older than me, and did so while my mom was in rehab.
He had it all planned out , he would divorce the first wife, get d/f , let some time go by and get reinstated, which he did.
But there was always questions surrounding my mother's suicide and even speculation on the minds of the whole circuit , if he had something to do with it. It is too long to explain it all but , but many of the CO's that came by would question me over and over about it, and they said that he would never in this circuit be , beyond reproach. My dad knew the CO's spoke to me about this and he blames me for their decision to never let him be an elder again in our circuit. To this day there is still talk about , what happened 18 years ago.
So for years my dad gave me token attention because I begged for it , even when I was a faithful elders wife, raising my kids in the truth etc. He kept me at arms length for so many years , and I think it was a relief to him that I d/a myself. He now had a good excuse to never speak to me again. I have done nothing but forgive him over the years for how he has treated me , I never have been disrespectful and always was the one that went out of my way to see him. He only called when an assembly was coming up because he knew he would see me there and wanted it too look like things were just peachy.
I got tired of that towards the end of my JW days.
I can honestly say that if my dad loved my kids, and had a relationship with them before I d/a myself and now that I am d/a , I would never hold him back from loving them or being in their lives at all.
The man has no love, plain and simple.