by minimus 34 Replies latest jw friends
Seriously, this is the one thing I would do differently if given the chance........not marry my first husband!
BUT THEN.....I would have never have had the privelege of giving birth to my 5 beautiful, wonderful children. Given that they made the bad marriage tolerable.
Frannie B:
My 2002 Chevy Malibu.....and get a Toyota or Nissan instead.
Yeah, never buy 'Merican!
Kate
Frannie B: I thought Toyota made the Malibu for GM. My brother has one and he loves it.
The bad thing about life is you can't take it back and I won't talk about it, ever. At least it had a good effect on me, I never feel self-righteous when someone I know does something stupid.
Ken P.
I would never have gone back to the WTS after my last period of "inactivity." I'm a slow learner.
Blondie
Well at my age it is a long list. 1.Have to get married( in my day there was no choice-pregnant at 16)
2. become a JW
3.bring my kids up that way( thank God two left( one died after she learned it was lies -one never was one( he died) one still is in bondage
4.Tell my hubby he was demonized( he is dead)
5. Make 10 people JWS( I know they say WE dont make them ( the planter-the waterer-God..BUT I DID it.
6. Tell my parents they were demonized....( Yeah! I was a real selfrightous JW
I have to stop there as the post could go on & on....
One thing that I'll always feel guilty for is my involvement in disfellowshipping an older, sickly woman that HAD to get care and living assistance. Her irregular to inactive son offered her to live in his house while her disfellowshipped daughter who spoke out against the "truth" in an "apostate fashion", did the same. The ill JW woman felt that her daughter could care for her better. The elders felt that she had "cast her lot" with a disfellowshipped opposer. So, she got df'd. And that will always haunt me. When she soon died, of course, no one was able to go to the funeral service and only her family was present. And to top it all off, she was a very nice person.
When I was kid in junior high school I had a friend named Robert Tucker, who shared very similar physical characteristics with me. With looked so much alike, the other kids would tease us by calling me Tucker, or him Lowry.
On a dumb ass whim, he and five others stole a car, lost of control of it, ran it off an over pass and into an embankment. With the exception of Robert’s little brother, everyone died. It was a terrible tragedy and big news in the area we all lived.
The family didn’t live that far from me and a few days after the funeral I decided to go by personally to offer my condolences. As I walked up to the house, a desperate and hurting mother saw my image through the screen door. Thinking she saw her dead son, she gasped, cried out and fell to the floor. There was no consoling her.
I was just a kid, and I meant well, but it was a terribly insensitive thing to do considering how much Robert and I looked alike. I wish I could ‘take that back’, as it were.
That was thirty-five years ago, but it still bothers me when I think about to this day.
Steve, in reality, all you did was a kind gesture. What a shame.
Yea, but damn. Ya know? Ya just can't win sometimes.
Steve . . .
If there was something I could take back, it would be the day I told my mom that dad told me that he really didn't love mom and that he raped her at age 15. And then when I told mom this, he denied it vehemently. He was an elder and then he turned it around to make me out to be the liar. I know what he told me. I wouldn't make this up, mom was pregnant with me at 15, do you think dad wanted to be burdened down with looking after mom and then me? I think not. I know what I heard. I sure as hell wouldn't make up a story like that to hurt mom. I will go to my grave knowing what my father said this to me that day in 1977. And I will regret hurting mom because of what he said to my dying day. Only he had that to live with this lie that he told me up until to his death. I don't know what he told my mother about what I told her but the two of them talked to me and said he has always loved mom. And I never raped her. And mom said yes your father loves me and you were born out of love...
Do I regret this and if I could take it back I would. But it was always okay for dad to hurt me. So I guess I just lashed out at him.
Orangefatcat.
Getting baptized......
Not dating longer before I got married......
Telling my wife about my doubts which were in fact truth..............
