"Getting baptized" should be #1.
If You Could Take "It" Back, What Would "It" Be???
by minimus 34 Replies latest jw friends
-
-
arrowstar
I'm sure if I thought long and hard, I would come up with dozens of things to take back. Mis-spoken words/deeds. My first marriage (wife-beater). But, even with the mistakes (some of which were huge...see first marriage reference), I wouldn't change a thing. Each event in our lives makes us who and what we are now. If we learn the lesson, we move forward.
From my first marriage, I learned survival. From my second marriage, I was blessed with my son. From the third, I learned that I will not tolerate lies.
If I were to take anything back...I would not be who I am today. Sure there are some regrets. But I wouldn't change a thing.
Lisa
-
oldcrowwoman
1. Saying no to the marriage
2. Becoming a jw
OCW
-
czarofmischief
I'd have quit holding in all that gas at the meetings. Seems like a lot of discomfort to suffer for a bunch of twerps.
I don't know if I could take back anything dramatic - I've learned so much from it, learned it in a very personal way that makes me a better person.
Of course, I've never had a kid, so if and when I do I will probably traumatize them in some way that will torment me until I die.
Maybe I'm evil, but I've enjoyed most of the bad things I've done... heh heh heh...
CZAR
-
stillajwexelder
Definitely GETTING BAPTIZED - because now I am baptized I can get disfellowshipped
If there are other things I could take back (all whilst I was an elder)
Disfellowshipping a sister for fornication
Disfellowshipping a brother for fornication
Disfellowshipping a sister for smoking marijuana -- I could go on
-
minimus
How about dfing the wife of a jerk husband for fooling around. You know, the type that is truly a "saint" for putting up with the guy but makes 1 indiscretion and realizes that she doesn't have to put up with this man's nonsense, anymore.
-
stillajwexelder
Minimus I never had to do that -- but I know someone who did -- it was the beginning of the end for me -- I will not give too many details and I do not want to drift off the post -- but sister (ex pioneer totally unblemished record) husband a jerk -- totally ignored her and many other things -- but his father an elder and one of the "in crowd". Sister for years begs for a shepherding call and help --but none given -- she makes one mistake -- a worldy guy pays her some attention -- guess what -- the elders could not get off their ass fast enough to form a JC --within 3 days she was disfellowshipped --it made me sick to the pit of my stomach
-
Scully
My baptism. A year and a half before that, I knew in my heart that The Truth™ had nothing to do with real truth. I wanted out, but had no support network and no resources to help me hold my ground until I was old enough to be self-sufficient.
That's why I'm soooooooo glad that this place is here - when I see teenagers who want a way out of the organization, they can get the support and information they need to do that.
Love, Scully
-
justhuman
Be a guitarist like Eric Clapton
-
berylblue
I blacked out during my daughter's last visit; we were in a heated argument. I don't remember what I said but they are telling everyone I disowned them. Now, my daughters have been known to lie and I was totally blacked out (not from booze, a little dissociation was going on there which I get when I am traumatized, I just "disappear"), but something in the back of my mind tells me that I said something like, "Well, then, I want nothing to do with you."
I wish I could take that back. I miss them painfully. However, I should state that had I spoken with them on the occasions they hurt me and told others lies about me, and told them how much it hurt, instead of holding it inside, I wouldn't have blown up that day. Difficult though it may be, it's better to quietly and gently discuss genuine grievances than to shove them deep inside. Some how ., in some manner (usually inapproprate), they will resurface some day. They did with me.