by logansrun 40 Replies latest jw friends
Yo Bradley...no problem having a good bitchfest once in a while. At least you come out and tell us what the deal is instead of dragging it out for 20 thousand pages. More exercise probably and also I'm thinking more porn is in order..
Sincerely,
District Overbeer
You know how the WTS keeps harping on JWs to Put On The New Personality???
For those of us who have basically grown up JW and having all that New Personality? crap shoved down our throats all our lives, when we set about leaving the JWs the real person that we have stifled for so long needs to manifest itself. In fact, I think a lot of depression among JWs has a lot to do with the incredible dissonance that results from people who are wearing the mask of the New Personality? and not recognizing or honouring who they really are and figuring out what they really want out of life.
It takes so much emotional energy to be someone or something we aren't. It's like we're acting all the time, taking on roles on a stage. Because we've neglected our real personality in favour of the New Personality?, we don't even know who we are once we subtract ourselves from the JWs. I used to look in the mirror and feel like I was looking at a hollow shell - I had no clue who I really was or where I'd end up without the JWs. It scared the hell out of me that I didn't know who "me" was, that I couldn't define myself apart from the JWs.
Bradley, it sounds like you might need to take a break from your studies to get to know you better.
Love, Scully
I think I may have ADD. Now, I've heard some people say that ADD doesn't exist, that it is simply a behavioral problem and nothing more. Maybe. But, whether the problem is truly neuro-chemical in nature or simply due to social constraints and outlook that doesn't change the fact that it is a problem, now does it?
Count me in as one of those that was an absolute skeptic regarding ADHD/ADD. I think I even posted such in this forum. Especially, when it came to medicating the "symptoms".
It's a complicated story, but my 12 year old daughter has been diagnosed with ADHD-combination type (both hyper-active and inattentive). And it looks like my son also has it. My daughter has a very complicated medical history so there were many things that had to be ruled out first. (i.e., brain injury from chemotherapy due to cancer treatment). It tends to run in families that have a high amount of depression, alcoholism, and drug abuse.
ADD or ADHD symptoms generally are evident from childhood because it is a brain disorder. So, I don't think adults can "develop" it. But, don't quote me on that. I'm still learning all that I can about it. Generally, someone with ADHD can become depressed because they have such difficulty functioning in life. But, depression is not the core problem. It's a result of untreated ADHD.
The diagnosing of ADD/ADHD is not a exact science. I would find someone who is extremely experienced in diagnosing and treating this disorder. They, most likely, would be able to determine whether or not you do, indeed, have it.
The diagnosing of ADD/ADHD is not a exact science. I would find someone who is extremely experienced in diagnosing and treating this disorder. They, most likely, would be able to determine whether or not you do, indeed, have it.
I wholeheartedly agree with the first sentence, and disagree strongly with the second.
Bradley I have always thought your posts are very intelligent and usually to the point also.
My boss recently told me I had become lethargic over the last few months....why he asked...at first I didn't know.
The more I thought about it, maybe it was partially to do with my faith or lack of it. All my life I had worked with everlasting life as the goal, no death, no more pain and so on. Now I don't believe that, I have lost my motivation for living basically. If my family were to join me it may be different, then I would strive to make them happy to buy, build and be there for them, but they aren't.
People notice and ask me outright where the happy person they used to know went to.... He's still here but he rarely comes out.
If you do not have family holding you back do something that makes you feel good...unless it involves hookers....even then that's up to you. A non-JW friend told me that working for a charity, donating time to a good cause can help bring motivation back to people who lose it because you feel people do need and appreciate you.
Either way Bradley I think everyone appreciates you here on the forum.
Get off the drugs.. if you can, hell try Dr. bud and see dr. miller. stay safe. peace
Logan
I put my thoughts in a nutshell form.
Now that thoughts of outward appearance aren't as big of a concern, i think that the way to work these things is to start on the inside and move outward. Have a good, long look inside yourself. What are your deep, longlasting desires. What are your internal problems/hindrances? Can these be dealt with? In doing so, sometimes outward stuff, like partners, jobs, classes, etc become unnecesary, or even hindrances, and need to be changed.
The reason for the inward looking is because, from my understanding, there is a better chance of finding lasting happiness like that. It's true that i haven't found it yet, but my life has improved. I am on the road, anyway, but others can't see it. But remember that how other people see us isn't that important.
SS
I used to look in the mirror and feel like I was looking at a hollow shell - I had no clue who I really was or where I'd end up without the JWs. It scared the hell out of me that I didn't know who "me" was, that I couldn't define myself apart from the JWs.
I agree completely with what Scully has said. I suffered from low-grade chronic depression for years, which is not surprising when you realize that you don't know who you are. Also what SaintSatan has said, you have to go inside, figure out what you love, what you value - write it down, make lists, meditate, do whatever you have to do in order to figure out your likes, dislikes, and I don't mean on an intellectual basis.
Your intelligence and sharp mind will always be with you; now you need to figure out your emotional/spiritual needs (you know what I mean by "spiritual"). I cannot emphasize enough the need for quiet meditation, introspection, or whatever you want to call it. Deal with the "you" that's inside, not your intellectual activity and books and classes.
Bradley,
I sent you a message I hope will help you.
Hugs,
Heather S. II
bradley,
There are some good meds out there for adult ADD.From what you are explaining I have reason to believe you are showing alot of signs of it.I have had ADD since I was 15 years old..I have learned to deal with it much better since I got into adulthood....If you have questions about it,I would be glad to share my information with you...pm me if you have any questions or concerns about it before you decide to go see your doctor about it.(thats if you decide to seek medical help for it)
mortons68
