Online judgementalism (page 3)

minimus

AZTEC-----YOU ARE FUNNY!!!!........Bradley Schmadley, Why don't you to just keep quiet?.......

AlanF

I think that people who correct formatting of any sort at all suck.

AlanF

searcher

I believe it IS possible to get to know someone by what they post, more specifically, by the WAY they post what they post, and by the sort of threads they get heavily involved in.

Maybe it is because I lurk far more than I post, and am therefore ? stood back ? but everyone I have met from the boards IRL has been exactly as I expected them to be.

Seems to me that when two people are in a conversation/argument/flame, they are concentrating on the subject and so have little time/objectivity to ? get to know ? the other poster.

Just my 2c

Brad, That's all well and good. Yeah we do need to think before we type. But sometimes you've got to call jerk a jerk. Everyone knows who's putting on (well mostly). Some posters want to flame. It's their reason for living.

I'm really the same person on or off the net. It's tough enough juggling the real me without adding some more. Why people want to get on a forum just to make themselves and others miserable is beyond me. But that's the way it is in cyberland.

We have knowledge and intuition to support our judgements. We all judge everyday. Every person we see or talk to, we make a judgement about them. We form our opinions by our judgements. The presumptions we attach to others are part of our survival skills. Giving someone the benefit of the doubt when they attack someone else isn't right. When one person verbally beats up on another, not by debate but personally calling into question, oh, say their sexuality. Heck, it's like the bully in the school yard.

If you don't want the words you type to represent who you are then, don't type them. If you choose to mis-represent yourself by your words then expect to get called on your words.

Of course there's more to this, but I'm plum tuckered out tonight.

This is a good thread I hope we keep it going... any philosophers here?

Panda of the "What is, is possible" class

imallgrowedup

Logansrun -

Good post. In fact, I just referenced this topic in another thread I was just on. I believe oftentimes people don't mean to hurt other's feelings or come off as attacking another, mostly because it is so much more difficult to convey our true meaning when relying strictly on the written word. I've heard it said that communication is only 7% actual words; the other 93% is non-verbal. Kind of hard to get the most important 93% in a place that operates on the written word only.

Anyway, I agree 100% with Panda:

We have knowledge and intuition to support our judgements. We all judge everyday. Every person we see or talk to, we make a judgement about them. We form our opinions by our judgements. The presumptions we attach to others are part of our survival skills. Giving someone the benefit of the doubt when they attack someone else isn't right. When one person verbally beats up on another, not by debate but personally calling into question, oh, say their sexuality. Heck, it's like the bully in the school yard.
If you don't want the words you type to represent who you are then, don't type them. If you choose to mis-represent yourself by your words then expect to get called on your words.

It is a normal human function for us to make judgments about others. But it is how we present (or don't present) our judgments which will determine how we are remembered in the end. I am so guilty of not being able to keep myself within my self-imposed parameters, especially when particular buttons are pushed, so I don't have a lot of room to talk here. But in general, I think the entire human race would be a whole lot better off if we not only thought about how the words we say (type) can affect the person with whom we are communicating, but how we feel about how they might respond. It's all about an attitude - do we really care about other people, or will it be said of us once we pass away that we were self-centered and didn't care who we ran over in order to be deemed the smartest, funniest, cutest or most outrageous person we could be regarless of how it affected someone else?

Ok. My soapbox just broke into a million pieces, so I will get down now and head off to bed.

Good night, everyone!

imallgrowedup

Rogue

what about us guys who just need info and dont really care if the people posting are a$$holes or not i have found that that nice gals/guys come last anyway and i dont care if a guy is a complete tool as long as his info checks out ps i need blueprints of all the branch office layouts so i can ....

Flowerpetal

bttt <-------------what does this mean?

Flowerpetal

Imallgrowedup:

It's all about an attitude - do we really care about other people, or will it be said of us once we pass away that we were self-centered and didn't care who we ran over in order to be deemed the smartest, funniest, cutest or most outrageous person we could be regarless of how it affected someone else?

This is for on-line posting: Or that we wanted to be sooooo right, that we didn't care. And if the person(s) we debated with might have said something to make us think, we would dismiss it right off the top, b/c we didn't hit if off from the beginning.

integ

After I robbed the convenience store last night and then shot the employee, I ran over an old lady who was riding in a scooter. In my mind, she should'nt have been out so late anyway. So what the hell.

Integ.

Aztec

Integ, you're so cute!

Aztec

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