Online judgementalism (page 5)

tinkerbell82

lmao @ czar :P

panda, bttt = back to the top

imallgrowedup

Yeah! Inquiring minds want to know!

Just what does bttt mean?!!!

imallgrowedup (of the still learning "internet lingo" class)

Tinkerbell: You beat me by a hair! Thanks!

Everyone that I have met personally or spoken to on the phone has been pretty well at least as pleasant as I expected them to be. I've always been delighted. Even someone who I've been a little unsure of has been good to know or talk with.

Mind you, I wouldn't want to know anyone who is callous or a regular garbage mouth. There aren't any here thank God.

Englishman.

Guest 77

Brad, I will once again quote Eccl. 7:21,22, "Also, do not give your heart to all the words that people may speak, that you may not hear your servant calling down evil upon you. For your own heart well knows even many times that you, EVEN YOU, have called down evil upon others."

Good post, we need to be reminded every so often not to be judgemental.

Guest 77

Abaddon

Oh, I think over time you get a very good idea of someone online, or to be more precise, of the persona they wish to present online. Snap judgements of people both online and IRL tend to be wrong. On the other hand, often one's experience with people will sometimes flag up someone as a potential $hit-stirrer, and be right; although trolls and webscum always think they are clever and original, they almost alway are niether.

There are a handful of people I can't stand - some of the time - but I'm quite capable of having a decent discussion with them at other times. I'm more than sure some people feel this way about me!

I think a lot of people come from an environment where they are used to having people be polite to dumb-ass opinions, and they still expect it here.

Obviously someone who in my opinion has dumb-ass opinions will usually think I have dumb-ass opinions.

This doesn't bother me in the least bit; I don't expect people to respect all my opinions, just my right to an opinion.

Other people want different treatment; and they are entitled to want different treatment!

bttt means "Bwaaa! No one's paying my post any attention" when used by the person who made the thread, and "Why isn't anyone paying this any attention?" when made by someone who didn't make the thread...

waiting

Obviously someone who in my opinion has dumb-ass opinions will usually think I have dumb-ass opinions.

Obviously.

This doesn't bother me in the least bit; I don't expect people to respect all my opinions, just my right to an opinion.

Good point. And I usually agree with your opinions anyway....well, maybe not "respect all" of them though.

Interesting thread.........the spin off discussion is interesting too.

Sassy

I think people who correct their formatting within 3 minutes of posting are very, very devious.

I'm in trouble. Most of my posts are edited immediately. I proof what I type but never catch an error until it posts and then leaving it drives me crazy.. (ok I'm a little anal)

any way, my comment after meeting a number of people (talking 3 digits) in person after getting to know them online is that there are some who are exactly as you expect them to be. Others are so different that you can't believe it is almost the same person. Sometimes those shy in crowds (ie. introverted) are not so when posting and some who post sometimes unthoughtful or rude comments you might think is not a very nice person, ends up to be very nice indeed. That's why I try hard not to overly judge harshly anyone just from their comments on here.

Phantom Stranger

abbadon, I respectfully disagree - even though time might smooth out some of the errors.

First of all, most communication between two people in each other's presence is not verbal. 55 percent is visual - our body language, our positioning, our appearance - 38 percent is how we sound (tone, cadence, pauses) and seven percent comes from our choice of words.

Second, many (if not all) linguists believe that written language changes how we think - the words, and the part of the brain that works with written language, activates different neural pathways when writing than when speaking. We go down different roads when typing.

Of course, you don't have to believe me - just try dating online for a month, without phoning or meeting until you have exchanges 10 (or 100) e-mails. You will discover that the person you create in your mind is far, far removed from the person you meet. A person who reads like your perfect match may annoy on the phone so much as to be disqualified during the call. Or on the phone, everything's great - but in person, in two seconds you know it's not right (and that is not all about attractiveness in a physical sense). Our minds fill in the blanks - but with minimal data, we're usually wrong.

nowisee

words of wisdom, bradley, words of wisdom.

nice post.

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