Emergency!!! - Crabby Pants Bought a GUN!!! I Need Advice ASAP, Please...

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  • Frannie Banannie
    Frannie Banannie

    Most of yall don't know that I live with my ex-hubby (just watchin' his back)...He's retired from the Navy, a stroke victim with an anxiety disorder among other psychological problems stemming from his IQ of 85, I'm sure.....His stroke impaired his left side and he was left-handed, so the use of his right hand is unstable....I live with him to see that the water gets turned off when he leaves faucets running and goes to the store, to see that he eats regularly, to see that doors are closed and locked when he goes to bed or leaves the house, cause he forgets and leaves 'em open and/or unlocked alla time....and to loan him money cause even tho he makes more than I do, he can't handle his finances successfully from month to month.....

    This morning, he ranted and raved and called the Police dept. to report that two garbage trucks were cruising down our street side-by-side blocking traffic while they were picking up garbage (they do this every week)....He wasn't going anywhere, just got irritated that they were blocking the street as they went about their business.....A short while later, he went somewhere and came back with a loaded gun in a shoulder holster....My mouth fell open and I asked very mildly..."what are you doing with that gun?"......He said that he bought it and starts classes tomorrow to be certified to carry a concealed weapon......He says things are getting too nasty around town.....

    Friends.....we're talkin' about "Forrest Gump with a BAD Attitude" here.....Question is: HOW DO I HANDLE THIS without pissin' him off....If I call his Sis or Son and give them a "heads up" he'll know I told 'em.....I could call the class instructor where he's going to be certified, but there's no guarantee they'll listen when I tell 'em the problem AND no guarantee they'd take the gun away from him anyway......My only other choice is to let him just go ahead and "do his thing" and "hang" himself for mopry with intent to creep.....or whatever they charge people with who have no business with a gun in the first place.

    Help, please....I need advice pretty soon here....

    Frannie B

  • cruzanheart
    cruzanheart

    I would pay a quiet visit to your local police department and tell them what's going on and what you're worried about. I think you have every reason to be worried. Unfortunately, it is ridiculously easy to buy a gun in Texas. And, if he makes you nervous, I would consider giving him an ultimatum that either the gun goes or you do. I wouldn't want to live in the same house with someone unstable who owns a gun. Ain't healthy, girlfriend. Don't wait, okay?

    Hey, are you coming to Dallas for the Apostafest next month? Pleeeeeeeeeeze?

    Love,

    Nina

  • Frannie Banannie
    Frannie Banannie

    Thanks, Nina....I already called the Police....they advised me to call the DPS who handles certifications....when I called the DPS, they said they don't do the classes that I'd hafta get in touch with the class instructor.....I may just go down there tomorrow....It takes more than one class to get certified....The big problem is that I don't have access to the paperwork (psych profile) on him that proves what I'm claiming, nor do I have any right to access his records....

    I probably won't be able to make this one, Nina...my job right now is Friday thru Monday 12 hr day shifts, so that pretty much destroys every weekend.....I'm gonna work on changing that asap cause I fer SURE wanna make the next one...thanks for asking, tho.

    Frannie B

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    Wow Frannie. I don't know what you should do. I think you have been handling it correctly. But please be CAREFUL, we don't want you hurt either!

  • Frannie Banannie
    Frannie Banannie

    Thanks, Sns...I'm just gonna "go for broke" here...I put in a call to and left a message for his Sis in Calif.....telling her something has come up about him and I need to speak with her confidentially....I've told our daughter (waiting for her to recontact me), but she was busy at the school....I wish I had the psych profile on him that I could show them to prove my claim is not just one of those "disgruntled ex-spouse" claims.....but since we're not related, I can't even access his records...

    Frannie B

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    You aren't exactly a normal ex though. You are there IN his life helping him. People should take your more seriously. I understand about legal records, etc, but people should listen to you even without the profile.

    And if anything does happen, you will be able to live with yourself by doing everything you could to try to avoid a bad situation. What you are doing, takes guts and I admire that!

  • Nathan Natas
    Nathan Natas

    It seems your local police are not interested.

    Call the FEDS -- the BATF (Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco & FIREARMS) office nearest to you, and tell them what your situation is.

    It may be that your state requires that a person meet certain mental qualifications before they can legally buy a gun, and when the gun is purchased the buyer must sign a statement about their status as per the law. If he really does not meet those qualification and lied on the form, he is in for some trouble.

    If this doesn't get you anywhere, then you have to go the "ultimatum" route that Nina described.

    By the way, I am not an "anti-gun" person. I am a member of the NRA, and I own guns.

  • morty
    morty

    Frannie,

    You need to make yourself safe right now....I would not worry about him being upset with you right now....He will get over it in time....I would make sure that you let him know how you feel about it.....go to the instructor before him and tell them your concerns....I am so glad you cannot get a gun here in Canada so easyly.....I feel a gun should be owned by a stable person first off, and secondly, why would one want to a gun? to protect what? Two fellas driving down the road blocking traffic? That should say it all....He has know bussiness having a gun for that reason...This is your safety....I would feel very uncomfortable about the situation and you should bite the bullet and do something about it right away,,,,Go to that lesson and stop this asap......you have a obligation (because you look after him) to make sure you,him and the public are safe from this every going to far.......please Frannie, do what ever it takes to not let him get this licence and get this gun out of your home....

    signing off as, worried about Frannie,

    morty

  • Frannie Banannie
    Frannie Banannie
    Call the FEDS -- the BATF (Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco & FIREARMS) office nearest to you, and tell them what your situation is.

    It may be that your state requires that a person meet certain mental qualifications before they can legally buy a gun, and when the gun is purchased the buyer must sign a statement about their status as per the law. If he really does not meet those qualification and lied on the form, he is in for some trouble.

    If this doesn't get you anywhere, then you have to go the "ultimatum" route that Nina described.

    By the way, I am not an "anti-gun" person. I am a member of the NRA, and I own guns.

    Thanks, Nathan....I will call the BATF and see what they say.....Texas *does* require that the person not have mental problems which require therapy and/or monitoring for a certain time period prior to seeking gun certification (go figure..heh).....while ex-hubby has not been monitored for problems per se, he IS on meds for several of his problems (anxiety disorder, etc.) and in no way should have access to a fire arm....his anxious persona is very easily escalated to a violent display of temper.

    I'm not an "anti-gun" person either, Nathan....just don't relish seeing one in his hands because of possible harm to himself or some innocent bystander.

    Frannie B

  • imallgrowedup
    imallgrowedup

    Frannie -

    Have you tried contacting this org?

    Source: http://www.oag.state.tx.us/agency/agencyfaq.shtml

    Carrying Handguns

    Can I carry a gun in Texas? What are the laws regulating this?

    The Texas Department of Public Safety (DPS) is the law enforcement agency for the state, and can address your questions regarding the possession of weapons in Texas. You may contact DPS directly as follows:

    Texas Department of Public Safety
    Concealed Handgun Licensing Unit
    PO Box 15888
    Austin, TX 78761-5888
    (512)424-7293
    (800)224-5744
    www.txdps.state.tx.us

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