Thinking of becoming a JW - Need urgent honest advice!!! (page 6)

stichione

I'm not telling you not to get involved with this person.

But as a JW inside this religion, I am giving you free advice not to get involved with this religion. It is a high mind-control cult that once you get in, they will tell you everything you have to do in order to be an approved member. You will even have to adjust your personal opinions and the way you think in order to conform to the opinions and thinking of the leadership.

And God forbid you want to leave, you will be shunned and will lose all your JW friends. Your husband would not be invited to get togethers and they will not come over to your place. Think very hard and long before you make this decision to get in and, in my opinion, ruin your life.

heathen

I don't hatem because it's the truth , I hatem because they love to demonize anyone with a difference of opinion on their doctrinal issues that some do not make sense . This is a cult that suppresses any individuality and has no respect or tollerance for people who can think for themselves . From what you posted you sound like you are very independant and like to make decissions for yourself , I predict this will cause all kinds of problems unless you are willing to shake your head in agreement with everything they present to you as truth just to marry some guy you like . Technically they should be dfing this guy just for considering a relationship with an outsider , according to their own rules and especially if you two have already done the nasty thang .

Carmel

My advice? Do the study but stay connected here and get some questions to ask. See how well your new found friend handles the "truth about the truth". Me thinks the answer will be one of two, either he will leave the dubs and chose you or he will be repulsed by your thought of questioning the leadership and history of the Society. The answer will be obvious and you will own it. It won't need to come from us.

carmel

SheilaM

Depends on if you want to lose your contact with your parents and no longer be NORMAL .............run don't look back

jgnat

Natalienu, I married a JW but I did not join the religion. This religion demands a great deal from body and mind - far more than God demands, in my opinion. I have a rich Christian heritage, and I would not trade that for anything. Find out if your man would still be interested in you if you chose NOT to join.

Here is a thread I started on the "JW boy meets "worldly girl", a regular phenomenon. Does your man fit any of the profiles described there?

Being part of a normal, loving family is a treasure, not to be readily discarded. The heavy commitments required of the JW life will leave very little time for your family, or, for that matter, your new relationship.

Perhaps some of your fascination comes from a desire to develop the spiritual side of your life. I strongly encourage you to do your personal investigation without the ready help of a Jehovah's Witness book study. Their sales technique is polished and well-honed. Too bad their theology is not similarly well thought out. Here are a series of interesting talks about some of the basic thoughts of Christianity. You might find them interesting.

http://www.oasisedinburgh.com/alpha/talks_2002_2/intro.htm

Tuesday

I hope I'm not the first to say this but it's really up to you. I know being a witness wasn't for me just because it was too controlled of an environment. Now I'm not one to sit here and relay horror stories of abuses and stuff like that, the little things that got me to not like being in "the truth" were stuff like, not being able to see pg-13 or R rated movies even when I was of age, can't swear ever, had to spend not only the time at meetings but also the time to study for those, plus going out in service, couldn't have any style hair I wanted, couldn't dress any way I wanted, couldn't spend time with friends that weren't witnesses, couldn't do anything I wanted to do if it conflicted with meeting schedule. It just took too much of my time and energy not to mention I like to make decisions for myself and I felt all my decisions were already made for me as a witness. It's up to you though, the brothers and sisters are loving for the most part just don't leave, and if you can stand hearing the same stuff over and over again at meetings and like to have a very controlled environment (like a military life) then you might enjoy being a witness, otherwise I would steer clear.

shamus

Oh lord no, friend! Run!

If your hubby wants you that bad, he should leave the ~~religion~~ cult! And it is a cult.. this from a person who went against his family wishes and joined the cult... only to find out that I suffered from depression and my eyes were closed to what the cult is all about. When they were opened, I ran, ran, ran. And I never looked back.

Don't do it. That's about as honest as I can get.

sf

I have met a wonderful man but unfortunately he is a JW.

You must live in la-la land. There is no such thing...FORTUNATELY!

sKally

Tinkerbell4125

RUN!

Dawn

Looks like you've had quite the response!

I have two pieces of advice for you:

(1) If he is a wonderful man - then he deserves to be free from that religion. Don't jump into the quick sand with him - throw him a life line and help him OUT

(2) You indicated that you don't know much about bible. Don't try to learn it from a cult - go to the source itself. Pick up a bible and start by reading the book of John. It's an easy book to read and encompases the message of Jesus.

Thinking of becoming a JW - Need urgent honest advice!!!

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