by minimus 56 Replies latest jw friends
Stephanus, IMO, Minimus was trying, as a longer time member on this board to tell us newbies that it was okay to put it out there, and that we all should play nice together.........that's how I took it...........am I wrong, group? I like Minimus' topics, he gets me thinking!
Terri
Simon has expressed that he regards us as his "guests". It's an accurate comment. If we trample "his" place, his site, it's not right. As any person knows when they invite an extremely large, sometimes unmanagable crowd, you can't control everybody. Some people might view a show of hospitality as something that could be taken for granted......Stephanus, my opinion is that you judge incorrectly.
Sunny,
If you can post a formula to "disagree, without being disagreeable",
Then I will ablidge.
No such a critter...In my view...
Anything we post in a personal aspect is open to debate. I have seldom seen other posters say anything that requires more than further comment. I see these posts as educational, and not hurtful or abusive.
If what one wants is to post a comment without feedback, then this or any other discussion board is not the place. You would need an anonymous "hit and run" site for such postings and not a DISCUSSION BOARD.
Beliefs are highly personal. They are the code that one lives by. If made public, then they are open to debate, discussion, and critisism.
Minimus,
I have to ask: If you are a guest of Simon -- as all of us are -- why are you the one asking this question? Shouldn't that be done by our host?
I don't mean to be confrontational, but you start a thread asking if we feel comfortable criticising this site, evidently something someone should be easy with. In your illustration this is tantamount to criticising Simon's "house." Don't you feel this is rather strange? Why would you even say this in "Simon's house" if that is what this really is?
I know, I know...I'm being testy. I am appreciative of the job Simon and the mod's do here, but I don't think the house = site parrallel is really fair.
Bradley
Simon has expressed that he regards us as his "guests". It's an accurate comment.
I agree. If I threw a social event and one of my invited guests caused a fight among other attendees, or trampled my flower bed, or got drunk and tried to swallow the fish live from my aquarium, you can bet your bottom dollar I'd think twice before inviting that person back.
The difficulty with public message boards, however, is that they are just that -- public. It's like throwing a party and putting "and bring all your friends" on the invitation. You never know who is going to show up. I've been to parties like that, and there's always some fool with a lampshade on his head. I don't think it's unreasonable for the host to ask the unruly guest to leave.
Having said all that, from a personal perspective, even though I speak as a minority much of the time, I must say that I feel welcome here by most of the participants. Nothing requires me to interact with everyone. If I respond, it is my choice alone. If someone wants to start trouble with me, well..... that's what they made moderators for.
No because when I talk about the lil red dot.............he pouts
Well said SFJim
Sheila,
We dont mind Mini being odd, he does the best he can being he has no knees and all. LOL
Sheila, you've been quite sweet lately. I like it.....Bradley, You know the answer---I just like asking questions. If I was in Simon's house and he asked me if I was comfortable, as a good host would, and it was very chilly in the house, I'd let him know. And I'd volunteer if the food was great that I REALLY enjoyed the meal. Now if Ang said, "Minimus, would you like some liver and onions, too," I'd say, "No thanks. I really wouldn't enjoy that but thanks for asking."......ok?
Minimus,
Bradley, You know the answer---I just like asking questions. If I was in Simon's house and he asked me if I was comfortable, as a good host would, and it was very chilly in the house, I'd let him know. And I'd volunteer if the food was great that I REALLY enjoyed the meal. Now if Ang said, "Minimus, would you like some liver and onions, too," I'd say, "No thanks. I really wouldn't enjoy that but thanks for asking."......ok?
I agree. And, please don't get me wrong -- I have absolutely NOTHING against Simon or the mod's. In fact, I have lunch with one of them ever couple months or so.
But, just as you would let your host know how you feel in a kind way I will do the same: I think some of the moderating here has been a little heavy-handed AT TIMES. For instance, I recently called a poster who was obviously a troll and was making very creepy comments about tickling children a "moron." It was edited out. Personally, I think that's plain silly.
I also believe that feelings and pride have sometimes gotten in the way of clear thinking with regard certain posters. I know one person, for instance, who was deleted and I cannot for the life of me understand why. I think that is unfortunate, especially when I have yet to ever see someone "reinstated" on this board. (I'd like to say more but -- I'll be honest here -- am concerned if I do I'll be the next one to get the boot. There is just this slight uneasy feeling that I think a lot of people are starting to feel. But, I think it is entirely resolvable.)
Just my foolish opinion.
Bradley
I don't think EVERYTHING a mod or Simon does has to be necessarily correct. I don't understand every thing either but it's not my place to know what goes on behind the scenes. Perhaps some mods are a bit too reactive. Perhaps, they are not. One thing I know is that for a board this size, it usually runs pretty smooth.
