When I was on my way out of the borg, I got real sick and had to stay in bed for a month. Not one JW came to visit. It wasn't like nobody knew I was sick. An elder and his wife whom I lived with for 8 months knew. She never came to my house or even called. Right after I got better I met a worldly man ( my husband now). When the elders found out they came to my house to counsel me. I wasn't home at the time, but my mother told me they came by and what they wanted. I was so furious. Don't visit when I am sick but let me do one thing that they consider wrong and here they come running.
Sorry for the hi-jacking of the thread. I am glad your son is doing better. Hope he has a full recovery.
Gordy, I'm glad your son is doing better. Are they doing any tests to see why he was so anemic? He might need some more treatment.
I once stayed away from the meetings for 3 months, just to see if anyone would call. No one called, not even a sister that had supposedly been close to me. I finally went back (should have stayed away and saved my self 15 years of grief) and a few people mentioned that they hadn't seen me. I should have seen the "love" then.
I'm glad your son is doing better Gordy! It's great that you've found a more loving group of people to be with too.
In regards to the JW's in times of ill health and death, I've seen my share of incosiderate to downright nasty behavior too. It seems to be yet another worldwide phenomenon in their org. I'm glad your new church has loving and caring people for you to be with.
The hall I went to always noticed when someone wasn't there, unlike alot of the experiences I've read here, but the result was no better. They'd freak if you even missed one meeting or they'd gossip behind your back. I have a friend who had an appendicitis attack and the whole hall criticized her for missing the meeting. Her family begrudgingly let her stay home. They thought she was faking. When they returned home she was balled up on the floor. Her appendix burst in the ambulance and she almost died.
I am glad your son is OK. As a parent, I believe that our children are the focus of what really matters. Our good health is the only thing we need to be happy---that and the good health of our kids!
I am also glad that you and your son belong in a community ( religious or otherwise) that can give you encouragement and support, and offer you a good support network . It is so important.
Shame on your ex wife ( I am sure I do not have to tell you that)
And as for the reaction of all the current practicing JWs--I am not surprised. It is a belief that promotes, among other things--selfishness and isolation, and true lack of love for fellow man.
Gordy> Glad to see a potentially dangerous and possibly tragic situation turned out OK. Have they determined the reasons why? and taken steps to prevent a reoccurance?
I'm amazed at the outpouring of people's emotions here, who have expereinced similar situations? Where is the Love they brag about.?
Gordy - so glad to hear your son is ok! And so glad he left the control of the Borg before he found himself in position to need a transfusion. OMG - how wonderful it worked out, instead of tragic.
I, too, am very pleased that your son is recovering well from his severe anemia. I do hope the doctors are looking into the cause, as someone else mentioned above. Maybe feed him some spinach!??! outnfree
