For all the ones that are married out there. I'm newly married, but I think there's a problem. I'm just going to go over the morning and say that this is a typical day. The alarm goes off and after several hits to the snooze button we both get up. My wife says she's going to take a shower but then comes back saying she doesn't want to anymore, "I was going to wash my hair in the sink but there are dirty dishes in it" (from the dinner I cooked for us the night before). I start getting ready as does she, she goes into the bathroom and I finish getting ready. I go outside to start the car because it's cold and I can warm it up for us. I go in the bathroom and wait where my wife is putting on a necklace. She turns around and yells at me "Why are you staring at me?" "I'm not staring at you I'm waiting to brush my teeth." "Well I'm using the mirror you're just going to have to wait". I walk out of the room, put my lunch in my bag and then set the VCR to tape her soap opera. She comes out of the bathroom, "If you have to stare so much how does the necklace look." "It's big." "Well then what would you like me to wear then?" "I think a longer necklace with some sort of medallion would look great with that outfit." "I don't have any of those! I'd look in the bedroom but it's a mess. I've been telling you to clean it for two days now are you going to clean it tonight" (tonight is my night to workout at the gym, but once again she tells me I need to do something else so I'll miss it) "Fine, I'll stay home tonight and finish it." She walks off to the bedroom, I quickly brush my teeth. I go into the living room to put on my coat, "How about now, do I look good enough for you now?" She asks with wearing the a gold necklace with a pearl on the end of it that I bought her for christmas. "Yeah I think that does look nice." "I don't like these kind of necklaces, they're too thin. I like wearing thick necklaces because I feel I'm going to break them. But that doesn't work for you." "Wear what you want, I don't give a shit." I grab my bag which is near the enterance to the living room, she turns towards me and I step back so she can get into the living room, she turns towards me again, "Of course I'm going this way so you have to be in my way as usual." I step back again and stand in front of the front door. She puts on her coat and starts walking towards me, I open the door and she walks past me without saying a word. "Do you want me to drive?" No answer, I get in the car and unlock the door. She gets in and we drive to work.
That's just the way it is around my house, last night was pretty much the same way. I rubbed her back for two hours as she told me that I wasn't doing it the way she liked it. I told her what I wanted to make for dinner she said she wouldn't eat it so I made her something seperate. Then she wanted to have sex, I wanted to stay up a bit more and wasn't in the mood. I've worked 8-8 shifts all this week so that we could pay our rent with one of my checks, I'm very tired. I don't know what to do about it so I ask, what would you do in a situation like this? Would you just get out of the way and agree like I do? Would you yell and scream producing more yelling and screaming? I think my marriage is broke and I don't know how to fix it, we've been married all of 8 months. Can you help me?