a simple solution to this is to only delete people who publicly ask to be deleted.
And what do you do with abusive posters? Ignore them? Tell the people they are attacking to shutup complaining? Things need to be workable.
what if THEY think it's in other peoples interests to know about their status? there needs to be some sort of statement as to why they are banned and a link to a post/thread where they broke the rules if possible. this will cut out the tiresome complaints of unfair treatment.
I don't really care what they think. Besides, do you really believe it will cut out complaints? All that happens when we try and explain things to people is that they do not accept what is being said and keep asking the same questions over and over and over again because they don't like the answer they are being given.
The best thing to do, IMO, is to keep the forum for what it is supposed to be for and not let petty arguments and people wanting to show off get in the way.