Why does it have to be gay "marriage?"

by spiritwalker 74 Replies latest jw friends

  • Rabbit
    Rabbit

    alsief:

    I will never understand why people suggest that to legalize gay marriage will open the doors for legalized incest, polygamy, and child marriage...because unless these relationships are specifically homosexual, they have more to do with heterosexual marriage than homosexual marriage. As a matter of fact, when these types of marriages have been practiced in history, it has been heterosexuals who have practiced them, not homosexuals. I don't see the connection except in the minds of alarmist homophobes.

    Shamus,

    I am sorry for the frustration you are going thru. I am still new here and am 'feeling' my way around and reading and listening. I will never understand HOW, with all the great people that are here and all the help that's been given to me freely and lovingly...there are STILL those few that will attack -- relentlessly, no matter the hurt they cause.

    It seems they think the world should revolve or stop completely according to their own values.

    THAT MAKES ME SICK ! WE'RE JUST NOW TRYING TO COME OUT OF THAT JW' ISM WORLD OF "OUR WAY OR THE HI-WAY!"

    Here are some definitions I think are appropriate in this discussion

    invective \in-VEK-tiv\, noun:
    1. An abusive expression or speech; a vehement verbal attack.
    2. Insulting or abusive language.

    adjective:
    Of, relating to, or characterized by insult, abuse, or denunciatory language.

    But one can also note that he chose a fitting image for himself, going out in a duel of honor, armed all over with spikes of witty invective and a specialised knowledge of insult.
    --Adrian Frazier, George Moore, 1852-1933

    They all seemed to be in their usual mood of precarious good humour which could splinter at any moment into invective and menacing gesture.
    --Alice Thomas Ellis, Pillars of Gold

    One evening John Mitchell, slightly in his cups, let loose at Whalen with a mess of invective about writers, their inflated notion of their importance to political campaigns, and the need to keep them in their place.
    --Leonard Garment, In Search of Deep Throat

    Political satire at the expense of governments or institutions is one thing. Personal invective is another.
    --Victoria Glendinning, Jonathan Swift: A Portrait

    Invective comes from Late Latin invectivus, "reproachful, abusive," from Latin invectus, past participle of invehi, "to inveigh against."
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    in·cest ( P ) Pronunciation Key (nsst)
    n.
    Sexual relations between persons who are so closely related that their marriage is illegal or forbidden by custom.
    The statutory crime of sexual relations with such a near relative.

    [Middle English, from Latin incestum, from neuter of incestus, impure, unchaste : in-, not; see in-1 + castus, pure, chaste; see kes- in Indo-European Roots.]

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    ho·mo·sex·u·al ( P ) Pronunciation Key (hm-sksh-l, -m-)
    adj.
    Of, relating to, or having a sexual orientation to persons of the same sex.

    n. Usage Problem
    A homosexual person; a gay man or a lesbian.
    Usage Note: Many people now avoid using homosexual because of the emphasis this term places on sexuality. Indeed, the words gay and lesbian, which stress cultural and social matters over sex, are frequently better choices. Homosexual is most objectionable when used as a noun; here gay man and gay woman or lesbian and their plural forms are called for. It is generally unobjectionable when used adjectivally, as in a homosexual relationship, although gay, lesbian, or same-sex are also available for adjectival use. See Usage Note at gay.

    ** My example sentences: **

    But one can also note that he, Yerusalem chooses a fitting image for himself, going out in a duel of honor, armed all over with spikes of witty invective and a specialised knowledge of insult, he could splinter at any moment into invective and menacing gestures and the need to keep them in their places.

    *** My example definitions: Yeru = homophobe. **

    If you can ignore standard dictionary definitions and make up your own, so can I, so can everyone.

    Yeru, there is nothing wrong with having your own opinion. It seems to me however, that all you really enjoy is being mean and narrow-minded...when it comes to hurting others feelings. You don't stop...you remind me of your own chaotic mob -- swaying to your own chants, as you continue to kick the living shit out of the guy on the ground. You see it, you hear it, you don't feel it...you like it and you won't stop.

    * * * * *

    **** My Opinions ****

    Have changed a lot from my JW days, if gays, straights, bi's, transexuals, hermaphrodites...whoever... wants to 'marry', form civil unions, shack-up, one-night-stands, stay celibate, make-love-not-war...I think they should be able to to that. There will be struggles, court battles, political intrigue, back-biting and stabbing, too. That seems to be a part of our 'nature' it's also the slow way that humans make their own tracks in the sand, otherwise there is chaos. This necessarily means that many people will never see their true rights in their lifetime (I know I won't...). The only way to get from 'here' to 'there' is thru discussion first. Most people -- if they were TRULY able to give their real opinions, without regard to being censured and ostrasized by RELIGION and POLITICS would glady bestow the rights we've been talking about to everyone.

    AS LONG AS THOSE RIGHTS WERE NOT HARMFUL TO OTHERS !

  • funkyderek
    funkyderek
    I've actually been in countries where only Muslims are allowed to worship in public. Here's the problem, freedom of worship IS a right, the freedom to marry isn't. You can LIVE with anyone you want..., it's the STATE SANCTION of marriage that is at issue. And even worship can be restricted to some degree. If your cult calls for human sacrafice, it's a no go.

    Why should the state sanction one kind of relationship over another? Why are you so adamant that the state should only sanction a relationship if it's between members of the opposite sex? Whose rights are violated if the state's definition of marriage is broadened to include homosexual unions? You still wouldn't have to recognise them, in the same way that you don't recognise marriages between divorced people, but your peculiar prejudices should not be allowed to restrict the freedoms of others.

  • itsallgoodnow
    itsallgoodnow
    Why not? What's the difference? Lots of people want to marry a first cousin, some would marry half sibling, and a small sector would even Marry a full blooded sibling. If we redefine marriage to include gay couples, why exclude the others.

    Yeru, I think that's called a "weak analogy", or is that "poisoning the well"? anyway, I smell bad logic here. Sorry man, I call it like I see it.

  • shamus
    shamus

    LMAO at this thread!

    I should start a thread about my personal views of how people who were molested are just crybabies and should go back to Jehovah because they are just sick in the head. Of course, I don't believe that, nor would I start a thread like that. (bear with me for a minute here). Why wouldn't I do that?

    Because it defies logic to do so. Because it wouldn't be nice, and it would be trollish behavior. Also, it would really hurt those who were sexually abused as children. What I'm trying to say, of course a normal person wouldn't say hurtful things about another individual or group on purpose. That is why I don't respond to american threads anymore. Because a lot of it is none of my dammed business, and a lot of my personal beliefs are pretty dammed contrary to Yeru, that's for sure.

    But I guess a homosexual (er, I meant to say fa**ot, but it got edited, LOL!) doesn't have the same consideration, especially because there are so few of us here (and fewer by the day). The comments that were made to me was that I needed to go "breathe into a paper bag", LOL! I guess that I was having some kind of a homosexual "hissy fit".

    Um, okay.

    I never asked to be this way. If I could marry a wife and have a kid, believe me I would. But I can't.

    Of course this defies the whole topic; that being that this message board was meant to be helpful to those who leave destructive cults. I find it, at times, not at all helpful, such as this instance. Englishman said that he thought that homosexual threads like these should not even be made. Well, I wonder what happened to that "thought", LOL! I guess that got shot down in a hurry.

    So now that I hope that things are clear, Phantom Stranger (very strange indeed), I am not having a "hissy fit". Nor was I ever storming about my house, with tears down my eyes, crying, weeping, gnashing my teeth, screaming f-- to Simon, Big Tex, or even you, LOL! (although you certainly implied that I was). Actually, I thought it would be fun to see the predictability of homosexual threads turning into 10 page epic ridiculous comments, and insinuations that I think that this thread should be locked.

    I guess that some people thinly veil things on this message board that I am sick in the head; maybe I am, maybe I';m not.

    But I guess that if I can be labelled a hissy-fit homosexual that has no idea of these issues (although being compared to people who marry cousins, and want to marry brothers and sisters certainly makes me feel all giddy inside, LOL!) then so be it.

    I think the person who made those comments does indeed have roots in the deep deep south of amerika; where things are not so nice, and people in fact do those things, whilst still stating that his/her country is the best thing since sliced bread, ROFLMAO!

    I guess that since I am a sodomite, I should just stand back and let these nutcases say whatever they want, LOL! After all, I have only seen three including myself actually post on this topic. The rest have gone away and may or may not be back. Gee, I wonder what that means? I will let those readers with .05 points of a brain cell figure that one out.

    So who's winning the olympics here?

  • shamus
    shamus
    Inciting hatred on the basis of race, religion, gender, nationality or sexuality or other personal characteristic.

    Unless you're gay.

  • Valis
    Valis

    I don't think so at all shamus. Go find an instance where someone specifically said gay people were incestuos or they were polyamorous or even pedophiles and we can do some editing. The problem is that it hasn't happen, but only by the inference of the one reading anything anywhere near that. So the offer stands...go find the thing that has got you so pissed and give specifics. If you have a problem w/Yeru, or the one who started this thread then call them out on it! Don't slam the rest of us that are discussing something that really does affect our lives as a society. If we can't talk about it then we mind as well capitulate to the close minded/socially bigoted faction of the world.

    Sincerely,

    District Overbeer

  • Phantom Stranger
    Phantom Stranger

    You know, I've gone back and re-read the thread...especially my comments to shamus.

    shamus, I've done my best to see what your issue is with me, and the best I can do is that you've decided that my reaction to your post had something to do with your homosexuality. No, I wasn't even thinking about your homosexuality - I was reacting to your post, which made no sense to me. None of my comments to you have anything to do with your sexual orientation. I suspect you thought you were communicating clearly - but you weren't. Looking at the below post, all I could tell was that you were pissed off, and I wasn't exactly sure at what. Now I think that you're asking the moderators to curtail comparisons that you find insulting and hurtful...but it's taken us a lot of posts to get there - with all due respect, why didn't you just say that? BTW, when someone calls me a nitwit or an ignorant moron, am I suppposed to use my ESP and "know" what they "really mean"?

    Jeez,

    What the hell are you all talking about?

    Fellow nitwits; why do you insist on talking about homosexual things on a discussion board meant for surviving Jehovahs Witnesses for anyways?

    I bet that your friends sure don't tolerate this kind of inconsiderate and moronic talk around them.

    Here's a good thing to do; try to talk about this with people in the real world and see if they don't look at you like you're some kind of freakin' weirdo or something.

    As for me, I think that I'll be going out and commiting incest, as this is obviously no different than being a homosexual, LOL!

    The ignornace and stupidity on this board never ceases to amaze me.

    HELLLLOOOOO MODERATORS...... HEEELLLLOOOO.... er. um... we're just having a "discussion" here, right? One that only bothers queers, so who cares?

  • shamus
    shamus

    I won't bring other threads into this, Valius. Lots have been locked away, thank god, or deleted. They are inaccessible, nor do I have the time to win the olympics today.

    I have said what I said now you can all go about your internet arguing. Those who know these issues and have seen those threads can figure it out.

    Very true comments: if you find these threads infuriating, why post on them?

    Translation: Like it or leave it. We'll say whatever and infer whatever we want about homo's, queers, or whatever. I forget how that old saying goes: perception is 9/10 of it.

  • Valis
    Valis

    Dude, I live amongst all the homos, queers, fags, etc..I live about 6 blocks from the Sodom and Gamorrah of North Texas....I hear people say stuff like that and it makes me want to throw up...unless of course like the word n***** is for African Americans, homosexuals use it jokingly and they do! *LOL* My land lords are gay and quite good friends...I know where you are coming from and yes this debate will go on, but the only way to handle such a thing IMO is very much like having to hide your sexual preference. It shouldn't be like that and on topics such as these people who have half a brain and any compassion will be respectful to everyone who decides to make contributions to the subject at hand.

    Sincerely,

    District Overbeer

  • cruzanheart
    cruzanheart

    Shamus, this is admittedly a volatile subject. As you can see from my last post in this thread, it got me thoroughly pissed, and that takes some doing. I feel very strongly about injustice toward any group -- I used to think (didn't dare say it out loud because it was a "worldly" thought) when I was a kid living in St. Croix that, if I wasn't a Witness I'd be right in the thick of the Civil Rights movement fighting for the rights of minorities. This is another form of civil rights and I KNOW that gays and lesbians will one day win their rights in American society. In the meantime, though, there will be lots of discussion pro and con as people try to understand a new concept and that's a good thing. Like the subject of child abuse (see gumby's recent thread which I believe is now up to 10 pages), the more the subject is talked about the less mysterious it is and the more that will be done about it in a positive way.

    And, for what it's worth, I can't even begin to understand how gay marriage relates to incest or polygamy. I don't blame you for being offended by that, and I think it would be a kindness for people to stop making comparisons like that.

    Nina

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