Now it's my DOG too!

by cruzanheart 29 Replies latest jw friends

  • cruzanheart
    cruzanheart

    Alright, this is getting downright farcical, in a very tragic sort of way. I started a thread the other day about my mother, who is in the last stages of Alzheimer's and just started hospice care. Today I found out that our dear old Dexter, a basset of almost 13 years, our first child, has a cancerous tumor. We've kind of known there was something wrong since last autumn, but lately he's taken to blissfully taking a dump wherever he happens to be (inside, mostly) and seemingly oblivious to the whole procedure. Anyway, he has a tumor right around his left anal gland (I know, too much information), and it's most likely cancerous. I've started another round of antibiotics, this time with steroids, to see if it will keep him comfortable, but I know that soon we must make the decision to send him over the Rainbow Bridge, and with my mother probably having a month left too I am really upset. Godammit, I just got over DAD!!!! I was starting to feel BETTER!!!!

    Okay, I'm alright. Sort of.

    Nina

    P.S. Oh, yes, now that I've finished my pity party, I needed to ask for opinions: How and when should we tell the children about Dexter? Jennie was there with me when Dexter had his exam, but our dear vet (who is a real live angel) purposely used very big words and then told me to call him tomorrow. I told her Dexter was very sick, and she was sad at the thought that we are going to lose two members of the family at the same time. Me too.

  • Joyzabel
    Joyzabel

    ((((((((((((((Nina))))))))))))))))))

    ((((((((((((((Jenny))))))))))))))))

    ((((((((((((Jackson))))))))))))))))

    &

    (((((((((Chris))))))))))))

  • xenawarrior
    xenawarrior

    (((((Nina)))))) damn !!! You folks just don't get a break do you? Sending some love to you all from the north !!

    XW

  • cruzanheart
    cruzanheart

    Thanks, Joy & XW, I needed the hugs. And the two glasses of wine. Now I'm going to bed. I have the next two days off and tomorrow I am taking the kids and one of Jackson's friends (and the friend's 15-year-old sister -- it's an entourage!) downtown on the train to have lunch with Big Tex and then go to the Dallas World Aquarium, which boasts an indoor genuine rain forest. Most impressive, AND it's privately owned. I love the place and haven't been there in years so it sounded like a good spring break adventure.

    On Friday morning the kids and I will go see Grandma and see how she is doing, probably take her a chocolate milkshake (her favorite) and see if she can drink some of it. Then in the afternoon I get to see an orthopedic surgeon about my neck (degenerative disc disease, two bulging discs -- I think my break-dancing days are over).

    On SATURDAY it's Jackson's birthday party!!! (His second, and he will be 8 years old.) We're going bowling with a few of his friends! What fun! On Sunday he will actually be 8, and he and Jennie are the lights of my life. Big Tex is the electric company. I really have a lot of blessings, and a lot of friends.

    Love,

    Nina

  • acsot
    acsot

    Holy crap Nina!!! I just read your thread and here you are taking time out to respond to my f&cking elder thread after what you've been going through! Gawd almighty you're the best!!

    I love basset hounds - Dexter was fortunate to have you as his "people". I've just been reading in the newspaper about animal abuse cases and it's really disgusting. I know you won't want to see him suffer, the bad part is that you are all going to be the ones suffering his loss, when that time comes.

    ((((((((((((((Nina and family))))))))))))))))) ((((((((((((((Dexter))))))))))))))))

  • SheilaM
    SheilaM

    Cruzan: I am so sorry, I am really speechless (sounds like just what happend to me this past year) I hope that you get some more time with Dexter (as long as he is comforable) I kNOW what a heart wrenching decision it is to have to make such a choice.

    I pray that you have strength during this time. especially with your Moms illness.

    I wish I had the words but I don't. Know that we love you and wish you, Big Tex and the kids peace during this time.

  • aunthill
    aunthill

    I'm so sorry, Nina. If it isn't one thing, it's six others. (((((HUGS)))))

    Aunthill

  • bikerchic
    bikerchic

    ((((((((((((((((((((((((((whole famdamly)))))))))))))))))))))))) & ((((((((((((((((((((((Dexter)))))))))))))))))))))

    I needed to ask for opinions: How and when should we tell the children about Dexter?

    I'm so sorry all this is happening to such very lovely people and their pooch. Nina when our family dog of 17+ years passed away my grown boys cried! Unfortunately death is a part of life even young children have to learn how to deal with. I would (we did this) include them in on family talks about how ill Dexter is and how they can comfort him in his last days. Get them involved from the beginning I think it helps them do their grieving gradually. Nothing can really prepare you for the final day, but it does help a bit to ease into it. This will also help them dealing with the impending passing of their Grandma.

    Boy this is a real heart tug. My sincere sympathies go out to you all, way to much sadness to deal with at once. Be strong, you'll get through it. You have each other and all of us to support and understand along the way. Please keep us updated.

    Love,

    Kate

  • simplesally
    simplesally

    Nina,

    I've lost a few dogs and its like losing a family member. You have to grieve..............I am so sorry.

  • drwtsn32
    drwtsn32
    Today I found out that our dear old Dexter, a basset of almost 13 years, our first child, has a cancerous tumor.

    Sorry to hear about this.... what a sweet dog Dexter is!!

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