What do I do about a Bully?

Stefanie

There is this stupid kid who is picking on my 12 year old daughter. It started at the begining of the school year and now yesterday the B*tch pulled my kids hair so hard she felt it an hour later. Two teachers know of the situation and have told my kid to just ignore it. The Principal wont return my calls. I dont know what to do. My kid is afraid because the girl has alot of friends and she is afraid she will get beat up by a bunch of kids.

I am going to the school today to talk to someone. I am very angry, but want to play this smart so that everything turns out ok for my kid. She still has a couple of months left of school.

I never got picked on so I dont know what to do or what to tell her or what to say to the principal at school.And help would be appreciated. Thanks

One thing was totally stupid of the situation. The girl picked on my kids clothes.......THEY WEAR UNIFORMS!!!!!! They basically wear the same thing.

Elsewhere

Wait outside the school with a bat... when you see the little btch... you know what to do.

Elsewhere

Seriously... if the school won't do anything, do what my parents did to bullies: Call the cops and report an assault. If they don't do anything, get a lawyer and he/she will FORCE the police to follow through with assault charges.

Until that time, I had never seen a bully run away on the very sight of me.

Nosferatu

One thing was totally stupid of the situation. The girl picked on my kids clothes.......THEY WEAR UNIFORMS!!!!!! They basically wear the same thing.

Just goes to prove that uniforms don't solve the fashion trend among teens.

I really wish I could give you advice on this. I was picked on in High School terribly, but all I was taught to do was Pray to Jehovah (which didn't work). Be thankful that your daughter trusts you enough to come to you with these problems. I never went to my parents with mine. I didn't trust them.

However, I'll relate an experience of what my ex did when she was getting picked on. There was one girl in her class who was calling her names, throwing paper balls at her, etc. One day, my ex exploded at her. She went absolutely ballistic and started throwing chairs, tools (she was in shops at the time), and a pair of side cutters ended up hitting the teacher in the forehead. He ended up going to the hospital for stitches.

In the end, they both got suspended for 3 days. Nothing ever happened again.

Stefanie

Wait outside the school with a bat... when you see the little btch... you know what to do

lol Thats what my daughter told me to do.

Seriously... if the school won't do anything, do what my parents did to bullies: Call the cops and report an assault.

Will they come to the school? I have thought of that but was afraid they wouldnt take my call seriously and not even show up. But that would be cool!

I have told her to defend herself and kick the sh*t outta her, but she like myself at her age arent the violent type. Being homeschooled for most of her life hasnt helped either.

xjw_b12

Stephanie. Ask the pricinpal what the school boards policy is on bullying. Up here it is a total hands off / zero tolerance policy. A little overboard, but as it leaves no room for interpetation.

My 12 year old son has been suspended or given detention on at least 3 occasions ( I've lost count ) Once for playing tag, and slapping another kid too hard on the back, once for beaning another kid with a ball, ( they were playing bean ball ), and another time for pushing another kid backwards.

He compalins to me and I say, "Hey what do you expect? It's hands off / zero tolerance, so keep your hands off.

I'd be surprised if your board didn't have a similar policy, especially with all the attention on bullying these past few years.

shotgun

Put your girl in a self defence course....Not necesarily to beat someone up, just to build her confidence and to be able to defend herself abit..

The confidence level increase is sometimes enough to deter bullies who like to pick on easy targets which back down.

Scully

I would write a very strongly worded letter to the school principal and the school board to complain about this issue. Make sure they understand that they have a certain amount of time (72 hours maximum) to deal with this and make it stop, or you will be filing charges with the police and contacting the media. The school principle is responsible for what goes on in his school, and the school board can take measures against him (suspension, losing his job, etc) if your daughter is being continually harassed by a bully. Since Columbine, a lot of schools have adopted a "zero tolerance" position with regard to bullying, and you have leverage here and need to use it.

I wouldn't even bother with phone calls anymore. It's gone beyond that stage, and you need to park your butt outside his office and make sure he knows that you aren't going away until he deals with you. If he still refuses, hand him the letter and then make a beeline to the police department to file a report. They will have to investigate.

The bully needs to be suspended or expelled. Make it the bully's parents' problem too.

Love, Scully

PS: There are some really great books that have been published recently about bullying:

Barbara Coloroso: "The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander"
Rosalind Wiseman: "Queen Bees & Wannabees" (for girls in particular)

Stefanie

Nos, basically open a can of woop ass?

I told her (my kid) if she got suspended it would be ok with me. I dont mind having her home, as long as she gets her piont across.

My 12 year old son has been suspended or given detention on at least 3 occasions ( I've lost count ) Once for playing tag, and slapping another kid too hard on the back, once for beaning another kid with a ball, ( they were playing bean ball ), and another time for pushing another kid backwards.

The principal wont even return my calls. Its a bad school. I even got hit on by some eighth graders. Everytime I go the boys stare at my boobs. And I dress like a mommy and I always have my babies with me! Its a bad school. And I fear for gang action on my kid.

The confidence level increase is sometimes enough to deter bullies who like to pick on easy targets which back down.

She started lifting weights last week. She is trying to be ready to throw a mean punch.

JH

Can you talk to the parents of that kid? If they don't do anything, call the cops.

What do I do about a Bully?

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