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What do I do about a Bully?
by Stefanie 38 Replies latest jw friends
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lilacia
I agree with many of the posts! Document and record and write letters to the Principal with details about what your daughter has told you was said in the meeting with the first Principal. Don't threaten to send the letter that documents the details, do it. Send it to the Superintendent of the school district AND demand a meeting with Principal, Assistant and another adult, preferably the Socail worker AND a friend of yours as well that you trust. That way, all noted detials of the meeting are kept to the truth. Plus, request as a result of your initial meeting, a second meeting within the same week with the parents of this other student with the same adults present. Document and record if you can, the meeting on video. Walk in with the cam and let them know you intend to record the proceedings and if they have a problem with it, then they can send off the news and media cams later if they wish as well! Don't take it lightly, the zero tolerance laws are there to protect all who are involved, so it actually works for the best for the victims and the bully, in cases where kids may lie and accuse a "bully" just to stir up trouble. Even in the case where there is a true "bully", they can possibly get help BEFORE a more serious incident occurs. I would also call the police if the school does not accomodate your needs immediatly. If you don't feel it will do much, go ahead and call the police immediatly then.
You mentioned your daughter had been homeschooled. I am both an educator by degree, taught for nearly ten years in both Elementary Edu classrooms as well as Special Ed. Then I made the choice to homeschool my own children due to a long list of reasons. Be strong, you are the voice for your child. She will remember what you have done for her and you also set an example. Wish you the best, keep us informed.
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carefully faded
I agree with many of the suggestions. I think the most important thing you can do is to dilligently document everything! Names, dates, incidents, etc. Write a letter to the Principal, Teachers, School Board Members . . . everyone . . . detailing each incident involving your daughter. Make them feel personally involved and responsible by including the names and titles of the school employees that you have approached for help (the Principal, etc.) and include how each individual responded. Indicate that they are "on notice" and that you will be holding each of them personally responsible for any further incidents that may occur because they have not taken action to ensure the safety of your daughter. Seeing their names and that direct notice of individual responsibility hopefully will jolt them into action!
Good luck to you. Please give your daughter a hug from me!
CF
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Eyebrow2
I had a similiar problem at my sons old school. Finally I called the principal and said, you tell this kids mother (he would not give me her number) that if he touches are even looks cross eyed at my kid one more time I am calling the cops. It actually worked.
If they are not cooperating, I would file a complaint absolutely.
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xenawarrior
I would agree with the suggestions of others here- write the letter and do it quickly. If the school officials don't follow through on their responsibility to keep the school safe, let them suffer the consequences of that very ridiculous choice. If they do- the speed in which all of this takes place will send a very strong message to the children of that school that these kinds of situations are taken very seriously and dealt with swiftly. The children need to know that their school is safe and the kids who are bullying need to know that it won't be tolerated. And the faster the better. There are probably other children out there who may not feel comfortable coming forward and if it's dealt with effectively it may help some of them feel safe to do so.
Good luck with it !!
XW
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ARoarer
A bully will not pick on one who gives back physical consequences. I am so sorry your daughter is going through this. Mine did too until she retaliated. My sons also had experiences like this and when they retaliated even in fear of gettting hurt, it was worth it because the bully never chose them again to inflict physical pain.
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freedom96
There will always be the school bully, and we even can find them as adults at work, etc. I teach my kids never to start anything, but I have no problem with them ending it.
Self defense courses are great, and teach self confidence.
I would find out from my child what they want me to do, as sometimes they want to complain to us, but they don't want us doing anything about it, fearing it will just get worse. If my kid said they wanted me to intervene, I would contact school authorities, and the kids parents, local law authorties if needed, and I would confront the bully myself, and perhaps without threatening, put fear into them if they continue in their unwise course.
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Mulan
There are laws about this kind of thing now. Call the police and they will intervene. Many schools have police on campus all the time.
When our son was being bullied (all through school) there was little done to stop it. They would tell me he needs to toughen up, and I would tell them that he isn't the problem, but they were not inclined to do anything about it. When he got to high school, the laws had changed, and the bullying was getting pretty bad. One Senior (from a wealthy prominent family) was trying to get him to pay him to not bully him, taking his lunch away from him, and telling everyone Danny was gay, (he isn't) so we called the police..................one of the teachers alerted us that something was happening with Danny at school, and he wouldn't tell anyone what the problem was. We got him to tell us, and the school had to suspend the bully, (for 3 days) and he was booted from the football team the day of the Homecoming Game, and had to sit on the bench that night. He had many problems resulting from that event, and it went all through the school, and the problem stopped forever after that, for our son at least. It is against the law now, in our State, so they have to do something about it.
The schools don't want to have to bother with it, and they won't do anything if you don't cause a fuss................so make it miserable for them.
I threatened to sue the school district if they didn't put a screeching halt to it NOW!!! Believe me, they got to work on it.
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wannaexit
If the the bullying was done on school property its the school's responsibility to act. But if it happened outside school property you and your daughter can make a police report.
wannaexit