What do I do about a Bully?

by Stefanie 38 Replies latest jw friends

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  Stefanie

  Make sure they understand that they have a certain amount of time (72 hours maximum) to deal with this and make it stop, or you will be filing charges with the police and contacting the media. The school principle is responsible for what goes on in his school, and the school board can take measures against him (suspension, losing his job, etc) if your daughter is being continually harassed by a bully.

  Thats It!!!!! Scully,

  Thats what I am going to do. They have enough problems without the media getting in their faces. That is what i will do today. I am going at 230. I will tell the principal they have 2 days to fix it or I will call the media. Here in houston we have a thing where you can call the news and they get in their faces and ask why they havent fix the problem.
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  Stefanie

  Can you talk to the parents of that kid?

  No I have tried that with my son when he was having problems. They say its confidential info, and wont let me talk to the parents of the child. Believe that seems to be the best way to handle it, but its impossible.
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  Elsewhere

  It sounds like Scully has a plan!

  Will they come to the school? I have thought of that but was afraid they wouldnt take my call seriously and not even show up. But that would be cool!

  They will come to your house where you will file a report. You will give them the name of the bully and any other info they can use to track the kid down.

  If they don't do anything... that is when you call a Lawyer... he/she will force the police to do something.
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  Country Girl

  Stefanie:

  Sorry to hear about what's happening with your little girl. My son was messing around with his friends on the playground in middle school, and he pushed one of them that was sitting on a railing. The kid fell off and got scraped up. He was my son's friend, so he didn't want my son to get in trouble, but the teacher saw it happen and they reported my son to the police and he was charged with assault and had to go in front of the Judge. He gave him community service, but my kid was way more careful about goofing around too much after that!

  CG
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  Stefanie

  Thanks Elsewhere.

  CG I wish my baby went to that school. I can only hope for a good outcome.

  The worse that can happen is the bully and her freinds get upset and gang up on her. But that wont happen because if it does, I will leave the babies at home with daddy and wait outside the school for them.

  I guess this is why some children dont tell their parents. But I feel like I have a right to demand my child have a stress free educational enviorment.
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  Elsewhere

  Yeah, if the police start saying crap like "hey they're just kids goofing off...", say "Ok, let me write down your names and badge numbers... I want to make sure I can give that information to the reporters and lawyer I'm going to call."

  You know how some wealthy people have their own security force? Well, you have a security force on your payroll too... they are called the police.

  When someone goes into a company and starts making trouble, they never hesitate to call security to have the person removed. You should not hesitate to call your security force and have them take action too!

  Nothing puts the fear of gawd in a bully like being charged with assault.
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  Scully

  Since you're in Texas, you might also appreciate some words of advice from a fellow Texan, Dr. Phil, regarding bullying:

  Bullies Schoolyard bullying is far more serious than just name-calling and teasing. It's escalated to include harassment, beatings and even death threats. What motivates children to bully? How can the victims of bullying fight back? What can students, parents and teachers do to eliminate bullies in their schools? Dr. Phil offers insight and advice, including how to launch an anti-bullying campaign in your school. Jay's Anti-Bullying Message Dr. Phil sent Jay to the Barbara Bush Middle School in Irving, Texas to talk to students, teachers and parents about what they can do to stop bullying in their school. View Jay's visit and Dr. Phil's plan to stamp out bullying. Anti-Bullying PledgesDr. Phil encourages parents, students and teachers to launch anti-bullying campaigns in schools across the country, much like the one launched at the Barbara Bush Middle School. Click on the links below to review the three different pledges, then, print them out, make copies, distribute, and honor the pledge! ? Anti-Bullying Pledge for Students? Anti-Bullying Pledge for Parents? Anti-Bullying Pledge for Teachers & Faculty Anti-Bullying Pledges: Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender persons Gay and lesbian youth, even those who aren't gay, but are perceived as such, face unspeakable harassment and abuse in schools. PFLAG ?Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays? reports that the average high school student hears 25 anti-gay slurs daily and that 97 percent of high school students regularly hear homophobic remarks. To address this issue, PFLAG provided three anti-bullying pledges that specifically target harassment against gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender students. ? GLBT Anti-Bullying Pledge for Students? GLBT Anti-Bullying Pledge for Parents? GLBT Anti-Bullying Pledge for Teachers & Faculty A Bully Nineteen-year-old Tiffany is a self-professed bully who says it's fun to pick on weaker kids. She not only bullies kids at school, she also bullies her boyfriend and her mom ? physically attacking them both. A Victim Cathy's son Brandon was the target of constant bullying. He tried but could not find a way to escape the daily harassment and brutal beatings. Brandon eventually lost hope and committed suicide. View their stories and Dr. Phil's reaction. Related Resources ? www.mytherapynet.com is the online therapy and referral service mentioned in the show. ? www.pflag.org is the web site for Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. Refer to Jay McGraw's book Closing the Gap for more on bullyng, including how to deal with bullies and how to stop being a bully. Speak OutWere you ever a bully? Have you been the victim of bullying? Do you know someone who is being bullied? Talk about it on the message boards. Tapes and Transcripts Buy a copy of the show. Feedback E-mail your comments to the Dr. Phil staff.

  RELATED LINKS Dealing With Bullies Advice for Parents of Troubled Teens Preparing Your Child for Dangerous Situations Girls Misbehaving
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  Stefanie

  Yeah, if the police start saying crap like "hey they're just kids goofing off...", say "Ok, let me write down your names and badge numbers... I want to make sure I can give that information to the reporters and lawyer I'm going to call."

  Thats a good one! I will use it If I have too.

  Scully, Many thanks. I have copied and pasted that on my PC I think my daughter will benifit from reading it. We both thank you.
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  Stefanie

  Okay I went to the school. I ran into my daughter in between classes. She talked to one pricipal who told her to "pay the girl 50 cents"... then he told her she was making it worse by telling on her!!!!!!!!!

  I was furious waiting for the dude so I could kick him in balls! Instead this other principal came out and was very nice to me, telling me that he would talk to Jessica, the bitch doing the bullying and tell her she will de suspended if anything else happens to my girl. I will be writing that long letter tonight and sending it with her in the morning stating what my next step will be, which is to call the cops and media.

  I am so grrrrrr angry now. Wish i had a punching bag.
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  cruzanheart

  Stefanie, I'm sorry your daughter is having problems with bullies. Jennie has occasionally too, but the school she goes to has been very responsive to our complaints.

  Here's a thought, too: we had the kids take a taekwondo course for a while, and that helped their confidence and self-esteem tremendously. Jackson is now convinced he can take out a robber with a single kick if necessary (he's 8).

  I hope things improve for her.

  Nina