4 year old pushes religion on my kid...

by flower 46 Replies latest social family

  • LittleToe
    LittleToe

    Flower:Dinna worry, lassy. You did right. From what I read, you're a good mom!

    Princess:

    So, I told him I thought it was a good thing to believe and it seemed better to have a hope like heaven than to just die.

    I'm genuinely impressed. I know you don't believe that stuff, but that is perhaps one of the most tolerant expressions I've heard, of late.
    Just like the Santa thing, they are just as likely to reach their own conclusions later in life. Meanwhile they aren't ostracised from their peers (as we were) and they start to develop a healthy respect for other's beliefs.
    I just know they are gonna get a crash course in critical thinking, later on

    LOL @ Abaddon and Six. You guys are cracking me up, lately

  • flower
    flower

    I agree with you too Bebu, I'm sure the boy is just repeating what his parents told him and I am not upset with the boy. Hes only 4.

    But I also believe that after four days of him repeating this some teacher by now should have stepped in and at least said something to put an end to the 'after death' part of it...they didnt, so I did because my patience for this kind of thing only goes so far and enough is enough.

    Thanks everyone....Its no big deal really, I just thought I had more time before these questions came up..

    LOL Abbadon..you are too funny

  • Elsewhere
    Elsewhere
    Today in the parking lot of the beer store (next to Walmart), there was a little chit crying because his balloon had gotten away. I tried to cheer him up by saying that "god took your balloon", but the li'l ankle biter was an atheist I reckon, 'cuz it only seemed to make him cry harder. What's a concerned citizen to do? *burp*

    lol... if he wasn't an atheist... he is NOW! Gawd took his toy away and now he's pissed at gawd! You have to remember... Gawd does good things and the devil does bad things. Not the other way around!

  • Mary
    Mary

    Flower look at it this way: it coulda been alot worse. This 4-year old could have said to your son "do you ever think we'll see a time when we can have lions and tigers as pets? I'd like to offer you a free home bible study..........."

  • nilfun
    nilfun

    Excellent, Simplesally.

  • little witch
    little witch

    ROTFLMAO at Six

    Flower dear, look at it this way, kids are like sponges. They take this stuff in and absorb it all until the are completly saturated, then their minds wring out and they start afresh.

    Your little one will not be damaged by hearing this sort of thing. Use it as an opportunity to explain death and dying and how different religious beliefs are.

    In fairness to the teacher, let them teach knowledge and not be bogged down with religious haggering, that is better taught in the home IMO.

    If I were a teacher, I wouldn't have touched it with a ten foot pole, it is a no win situation. what would have been tragic is if he or she introvened and took a religious stand one way or the other. All hell would break loose, and the teacher would have lossed her job.

    Things like this happen all the time when raising kids. I have found it is best to let them learn and hash things out for themselves. You sound very reasonable in that you have explained to your child that people have different ideas about things that are unknown. My advice is too continue to let him form his own views after all, he is quite young.

    Alot of people isolate their kids (homeschooling for instance) because they feel their kids wont be faced with differing religious views. They get what they want, the kids grow up feeling religiously superior to others and confused and naive about how the world works.

    If you don't want your child learning such basic knowledge at the age of 30, 40, 50, then allow them to live and choose as they go along in life.

    I went through this many moons ago (I have four kids). I used to really get upset if ANYONE mentioned religion to my children. As it turned out, I was undermining their ability to form their own opinion.

    They are well balanced and tolerant and the fact that they have been exposed to different views is in hindsite a good thing.

  • franklin J
    franklin J

    my kids learned about death by losing their grandfather ( my father) and their aunt ( my wifes sister) first hand last year.

    My 9 year old and 12 year old were old enough to understand the finality of death; and with them I could be level and explain that different religions have different perspectives. If you want to believe the Catholics; they are in heaven; if you want to believes the Jews; they are none existant.

    But I also explained to them that the worlds religions from the beginning of time have been trying to answer this; from the Egyptian mummies we have seen in the museums; the Greek Mythology; and the Christian mythology. Truth is no one has ever returned to explain it. We do not have definitive proof of WHERE you go; just that you are not here anymore. They are satisfied with that answer; being old enough to reason for themselves....mind you these children will not admit that they know the truth about Santa because they are afraid we will stop giving them gifts.

    My 4 year old was very satisfied with the explanation that they were in heaven. Her sweet little expectiations of life would have been shattered if we gave her the same explanation as we gave the others. The truth is just too "final" for such a little one and the silly stories we make up to placate are nothing more than "bridges" to span the unpleasantness of life--until they are old enough to grasp the reality

    .I suppose every parent has a different approach to this sort of thing. And I think that is as it should be.

  • SheilaM
    SheilaM

    Flower: This isn't the other childs fault. I remember my son telling a little girl she would be dead if she didn't go to the kingdom hall. I think it is better in those situations to have said " Honey that is what Bradley believes but Mommy and Daddy want you to know......

    I know my children talked to other children but I didn't have parents going to the Principle. Why go to the adults in charge when you have influence over your child. YOU are the main influence in his life, YOU have the power to mold him. Allow him to respect others but know that you have different beliefs.

    Also, I try to remember I TAUGHT my children to believe the Truth.......That keeps me humble SIGH

  • Yerusalyim
    Yerusalyim

    I can sympathize with being worn out by the questions...but have little sympathy for the subject area in which you complain.

  • maxwell
    maxwell
    Alternately (if your kid knows santa is fake) get your kid to respond; "Ha! and I bet you believe in Santa Claus too. Next thing you'll tell me is Oscar the Grouch is real!"

    That is funny. When my little brother was in kindergarten, a note was sent home to my parents, because, apparently he was scaring the other little kids by telling them Santa Claus was not real. My parents didn't tell him to anything different except to do as the teacher told him and not to talk when he was supposed to be quiet. And basically my parents were amused that they were threatened by a five year old.

    I have no children of my own, but it seems to me that a child that age will look to his parents as the highest authority on any issue. So I basically agree with most of what has already been said here. Kids at school and even teachers can say anything to a child, but the parent is the ultimate expert on any and all subjects for someone that age. The questioning may be annoying, but at least the parent is the one who they respect the most at a young age.

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