"Mustang...The thing that really ticks me off is that I blew my own cover. When my wife found out she said that I should have my head examined, and she's right. What a dumbass I am. What was in me that made me open up? I see it as a profound weakness, and it is never easy to accept weakness. I am still examining that one."
Over the years I have noticed that somehow JW's have cultivated a certain "initial charm"; it is initial because they only get to use it a few times in the beginning. After that the meanness will set in; but there may be a great, long period of numbness in the interim. Of course, when you are first showing up at the KH, EVERYBODY gets into the act and the classic "love bombing" sets in.
Somehow, though, they get a very DISARMING CHARM into the act. My Dad was the biggest bully I ever knew of, yet he could pull off the charm act extremely well on first approach.
So, don't feel bad; you were the victim of the WT School of Personality Programming!!! 1st it got to her, then she got to you and then you became the project target.
I once caught myself at the door (out in FS) being very SYRUPY & CHARMING; I had pulled off quite a good "con". I got out to the street, went round the corner and stopped and looked back at the house. I paused in the bright sunlight of a wonderful spring day and considered: "was that really me?? And what if I am wrong?"
I was never quite the same, after that; I think that, unconsciously, doubt started right then and there. How do you spell: L-O-S-S O-F I-N-N-O-C-E-N-C-E??
I get the impression of some spider or scorpion type creature with a large fang that injects a very sophisticated neuro-toxin that first hypnotizes and then paralyzes you for a very long period. You are very easily influenced by suggestion, at first; but when it wears off, you are LOCKED IN to the zombi-fied Borg!!!!
Mustang