by Englishman 55 Replies latest jw friends
LT,,
I would love to go to TX,, but business has been slow for over a year for me and it is just starting to get busy now,,so I won't be able to make it,,if the situation were more favorable I would love to be there. I'm hoping to go to Santa Cruz,, I go there once or twice a month in the summer because it is usually nice and cool,,the ocean water is freezing cold. Nice summer spot,,if you ask me.
Ang......is that the ocean behind the boys?
Yes, it was taken in Joy & Steve's backyard
Yes, it was taken in Joy & Steve's backyard
Joy and Steve have the ocean for a backyard? I wonder if they'd mind if I dropped in on them for the summer? That's awesome!
Gumby
This is a good point. Has anyone noticed whether those who disappear were regular posters online, and if their posts revealed whether they were just wavering, or what?
It's important to point out that after leaving everyone just goes in different directions, so the group may be a mixed one and that certainly wouldn't sit well with someone that's still close to a timid JW. Although those who have been out for a while may just want to party and have a good time, it would be good to keep in mind that some people probably need to connect and be given more individual attention.
Frankly I'd say they just need to know they are cared for.
It would be easy to revert to the JW mindset to some degree and not want to have anything to do with these heathens, but it would be hard to make that kind of judgement if they knew it's more than just a party, if they knew we have their best interest in mind.
Joy and Steve have the ocean for a backyard? I wonder if they'd mind if I dropped in on them for the summer? That's awesome!
Well, this is me (note rippling leg muscles) stood in Joy & Steve's back yard in Florida, which BTW, is the beach.
We thought that the house looked as though Tennessee Williams had designed it. It's beautiful.
Englishman.
Hmm...well Eman I know for some it can be like standing in the eye of a hurricane. When we meet up it seems we have a lot of "energy" for the lack of a better word, that is created. It gets a bit much if one isn't used to that, especially people doing things around you that one isn't used to. So, I would say for those that feel like you are reaping a bit too much of the whirlwind, just grab some filthy Apostate and drag them off to a quiet corner or sumpin. As Jebus asys..."Its all good!"..
I remember the first one I went to...with a bit of trepidation I met all these really nice people and ate and drank with them...The rest is history..
SIncerely,
District Overbeer
The first apostofest I went to was at Valis' house, and he was the best host , welcoming us into his home. I was so nervous , I am shy believe it or not when I first met someone face to face, but he made us feel like we had been to his house many times before. We started meeting everyone , and warm hugs were given the very first thing. It didnt take long after talking to the posters I had chatted with from here,,to feel like we have always talked face to face.
I remember there were so many of us who went thru the same things in our JW lives , it was shocking, on the minor details of names and places were different. There was a definate instant connection.
Now that you mention it Englishman, there are a couple I can think of that I havent heard from much since the fest, but I dont think it has anything to do with the fest,,probably just life being so busy for some.
Englishman,
I truly wish you were going to be at my first ApostaFest, thanks for being such an understanding person. This will be for me...the very first time to even meet with any X-JW ! I have to admit I am chomping at the bit to get there, at the same time I am kinda nervous, too.
I have been alone in 'this' for over 7 years...I need this in my life. It is like when someone dies...and at the funeral, people are able to experience a "closing" to that persons life. I hope it does that for me -- more like a happy wake, a good-bye to my past JW life. I hope I'm not over-thinhing this...?
Has anyone else felt this way ? Maybe after the Fest, some people CAN go on with their lives, they stop posting because of the "closing" and not because they disapproved of the Fest?
The biggest fear is active JW's being around and cameras. I don't think I am ready to have my pic on the board yet, I am f a d i n g !
I don't think that will happen with me (stop posting), I like the back and forth on the issues and I think I have something I can contribute.
Hope everybody likes our Chili -- it's my Dad's family recipe !
See y'all there...
Frankie:
That sux, but I'm glad that work is picking up for ya
Rabbit:
Aye... you're overthinking it
Just kick back and enjoy, with friends.
I'm looking forward to meeting you!
I remember my first few meetups with "apostates". It was an anxious time.
My first Apostofest was at Eman's BBQ two years ago (sadly I had to miss last year), which was at the end of an 800 mile road trip. Her Ladyship soon dispelled any nerves that I might have had, thought.
The DallasFest, last year, was another big one. I was exhausted after meeting so many people, but I wouldn't have changed it for the world.
Nobody parties like exJW's!!!
Whether we cut loose, or not, we get on with enjoying ourselves whilst restraining ourselves from judging others.
As for pics that are posted to the board, folks are generally good at blanking out faces on faders.
Bottom line - ENJOY!!!!
Maybe they just haven't recovered from the fest yet and they are still resting it off?
