A call to the childfree/childless....

by Doubtfully Yours 45 Replies latest jw friends

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  run dont walk

  I decided against having children. Sometimes I feel afraid of growing old alone and lonely, but lately I've realized that having children is no guarantee of any future situation. I've grown accustomed to my peace, quiet and reduced stress level of being childfree.

  what a great topic

  i decided against having children at a very young age, stuck in and brainwashed into the Jw life, I decided i would never put my kids through what i had to go through as a child, i just recently told my mom this, and it really hurt her.

  i am now 37, still (young) (hahaha) enough to have kids, but like you i have grown accustommed to my peace, and a reduced stress level in which i see high stress level in so many people (money, looking after kids, just go to the mall and see all the parents fighting with their children) . I also have a great job which requires me to work a lot of nights and late. My boss has a 3 year old, and its taking a toll on his job and trying to make enough time for family.

  Would i have kids now, possibly , but unlikely, the thought of having a teenager when i am in my 50's does not thrill me.

  Im sure if i had 5 kids now, i would be telling you how great it is, so it works both ways, i know people that have as many as 15 kids, and they love it, yes 15, so to each their own, i have none, and i love it too, so whatever works.

  As for the lonely and continuing the family tree, i have thought about this too, but , maybe 6,000,000,000 people in the world is enough.

  lol
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  Doubtfully Yours

  Chevysntats,

  I hear your point, and truly agree. I feel the same way about my nieces, nephews, and other close friends' children; defenitely enjoy them when they visit.

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  Blondie,

  My not having children wasn't WTBTS influenced either, although they strongly discourage having children today, you know, so that the R&F would have more time to serve their own agenda. I do know people who otherwise would've loved to have children and have postponed it thinking that the end would be here by now and they're such desillusioned people, even to the point of having emotional problems now that they're too old and their paradise dream hasn't come true. Sad for that crowd.

  I do my part in being very vocal with all couples that can and want to have their children to go ahead and have them, not to wait on some silly dream that hasn't and might not come true ever. Of course, another reason why I'm considered 'spiritually weak'.

  DY
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  Doubtfully Yours

  Run don't walk,

  Whatever works is correct. Childfreedom has worked for me thus far.

  And, yes, this 'moral obligation' issue about having children doesn't apply in this overpopulated day and age.

  According to scientist, if the population continues to reproduce at the actual level, earth's resources will be greatly diminished in a few years. I mean, it's awful to read their report!

  At any rate, thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  DY
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  iiz2cool

  I got married at 29 and was married for 16 years before we separated in December. We were both pioneers when we married and that was partly the reason why we never had kids, even though the pioneering didn't last long. It was also partly because my wife didn't like kids much. We were often accused of being selfish, mostly by family. Now that I'm getting a bit older I sometimes wonder if I'll be a lonely, cranky old geezer one day.

  Walter
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  liquidsky

  I've been married for 8 years. I have no kids, and don't plan on having any. I love children, but I have no desire to have any of my own. Niether does my husband.
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  Doubtfully Yours

  iiz2cool, Walter,

  You know, childfree or not, anyone can become a cranky old geezer.

  You'll be just fine; just enjoy people in general and there will always be somebody there.

  DY
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  Undaunted Danny

  Listen up WT$.You can't have your cake and eat it too..

  Because of your 'trash' counsel to remain childless,I have no dependents.and no contact with my JW kin who would be sapping my re$ources.

  I am your very own,frankenstein's monster.Defined as;the creature that turns on it's creator.

  I now have all my re$ources to go after you.Run for cover.....
  
  
  
  
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  Doubtfully Yours

  Liquidsky,

  Good thing you and your hubby both feel the same way. My husband would've loved to have kids and he's so good with kids, more so than I ever will, but when we married I made it perfectly clear that was not a possibility. So he's never pushed the issue, although I do feel bad for him at times.

  Perhaps whenever I get tired of fighting this WTBTS and leave all behind, he might get chance to have kids with another wife. I tell him that sometimes and he gets furious!

  Thanks for sharing.

  DY
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  Doubtfully Yours

  You go Undaunted Danny!

  So many that put off having a family, even getting married for that matter, hoping this dream would've been here by now. One of the many reasons the R&F is slowing down their efforts.

  DY
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  copsec

  I wanted kids BADLY when I was younger. I wanted around 3 or 4. I told my ex JW hubby this when he asked me to marry him and he said he wanted kids too but wanted to wait at least 2 years. Sounded reasonable to me. Two years went by and I told him I was ready and he said,"I don't really want kids. I just lied to you because I was afraid if I told you the truth, you wouldn't marry me." DAMN STRAIGHT I WOULDN'T HAVE! That was probably the beginning of the end for me. Then he started screwing around on me left and right and that finished it. I then went through a series of bad relationships with the wrong kinda guys and knew I didnt wanna have kids with anyone like that so I got my tubes tied. Now I am older and married again and really enjoy my husband and my step-daughter lives with us full time and thats enough for me! Now I am kinda glad I don't have any cause one is definately ENOUGH! Lol!