I told my mom I was going to Dallas and she FLIPPED OUT

by logansrun 35 Replies latest jw friends

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  bikerchic

  (((((((((Bradley))))))))

  Wow this really touched a nerve with me Brad and first let me say I'm really sorry you've had this upset in your life. The fact that it really bothers you at how you reacted says a lot about you too, heck we've all lost our temper from time to time, it means we're human and you my man took the step of apologizing to your Mom for your loosing it, which makes you humble and as a Mommy would go a long way with me and I can only imagine it did with your Mom too.

  The nerve it struck with me......like Scully it brought back a memory and for me it was the memory of when my only son to be baptized was DF'ed. That was a wake up call of sorts to me at how inhuman the whole DFing policy of the WTS is. I wanted to have this baby more than anything, I even prayed to Jehovah that I would, then for him to be DF'ed for doing something which comes natural and something I had been guilty of also, well it was like I said an eye opener for me. I grieved for weeks thinking as a good Dubbie Mom that my son is dead in Jehovah's eyes and yet the damage the Elders did at his DFing and taking him to suicide prevention because of it was the beginning of a slow progression to my getting out of the B'org and not being so concerned when his younger sisters and brothers rejected the Truth? as well. Now we are all out of that damn religion and happier for it!

  For me seeing what the Society is all about with their lack of love and DFing policy was a chink in my spiritual armor, maybe it will be the same for your Mom? You know she's just being a Mom, she loves you and thinks she knows whats best for you. It probably pains her to see you making it on your own fine without the B'orginazation and at the same time it has to give her cause to wonder. You said she's a critical thinker, don't underestimate her thinking abilities.

  This really touched me:

  But she's my MOTHER -- someone I want approval from and who I otherwise admire.

  If for no other reason *wink,wink* I'm sure that statement coming from you would melt her heart, it does mine. "Men borne of women and spend the rest of their lives yearning for a woman's acceptance and approval"......you guys are so uncomplicated it's us female types that muddy up the waters, sigh.

  Have fun in Dallas and grab one of those bouquets at the airport to give to your Mom when she picks you up!

  Kate
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  ApagaLaLuz

  Im sorry you had to go through the emotional drama involved. I say buy another ticket, and bring her with you. Then you can let all the other wonderful little apostate brothers and sisters "love bomb" her and change her mind for you.
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  SixofNine

  But she's my MOTHER -- someone I want approval from and who I otherwise admire.

  Interesting to think about. I find myself vascillating between being angry at the idea that my mom might not be giving me her approval whilst at the same time approving and admiring men without 1/8th of the integrity I know it took for me to get to where I am, and being angry at her for clinging to a stupid, illogical, mean-spirited religion when she should know better. IOW, she's my mom, I'm supposed to be able to look up to her, dammit.

  Fortunately, this anger is not a constant state. Days like today, when I traded vehicles with her, and the WT on blood was playing in her car's cassette player, are the times I find myself screaming in rage at the men in Brooklynn, and mom by association (just in the car of course). I've learned just to avoid discussions of religion for the most part, as flawed and against my grain (and against everything I was raised to stand for, when you think about it) as such a policy goes. All in all though, my mom sounds like your mom, which is to say 1000% better than most of our apostate compadres' moms.
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  Amazing1914

  HI Brad,

  Wow ... that is too bad your mom reacted so strongly. Well ... it looks like we can discuss more over beer Tuesday ... looking forward to it. - Jim
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  Xena

  Hey Bradley,

  Sorry to hear about your mom reacting like this. I was close to my mom too and can empathize. You know she may just have reacted that way because she is afraid for you...Some people have a very strong fear of meeting people from the internet, they picture every other person on here as a mass murder. lol and here you are going into a nest of them, I would imagine the maternal instincts would kick in pretty strong if that is how she is feeling...

  Most likely when you arrive home safe and sound...with only a new tattoo and nipple piercings ...she will feel much better about it all!

  Looking forward to seeing you in a few days

  Diane (mass murders never use their real names you know )
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  bull01lay

  Hi Bradley,

  1st - Glad to hear you're still going to the apostafest - It's important to let people see that even though they might have strong opinions / aversions to things, you are still your own person!!

  2nd - You've got guts, Dude! I have a close relationship with my Mum too, and don't know if I could tell her about something like an apostafest / talking to othe ex-jaywits on the net.

  Xena made a good point about 'people being afraid for you when you mention the internet' etc - my family has a PC now (gradually moving out of the dark ages - which a 'loving brother' ripped them off with!!), but has refused all my attempts to get her online. She thinks the internet is EVIL - a tool of the Devil. The WTS have made several references to the dangers of the internet - with a controlling influence like that, can you blame them for being scared ????

  Don't worry too much about the outburst with your Mom - It can be a good thing sometimes, clears the air, and gets issues out into the open. Just look at her with big, doughy eyes, and she won't be able to resist for long!!

  Dead jealous that you're going and I'm not!! Enjoy yourself out there!! Looking forward to some great stories!!!!!!!!

  Bull.