How Does It Feel Knowing That You Were Once A Member Of A Cult???

by minimus 45 Replies latest jw friends

  • minimus
    minimus

    ....Good point, Simon.....Knowing that my 25 yr. old daughter will not have wasted most of her life as a Witness, is something that I can take pride in. So I wasted nearly a half a century! Life is too wonderful to not enjoy. Helping people here see and understand how damaging this cult is, is very rewarding!!

  • BluesBrother
    BluesBrother

    Angry, Stupid, Deceived.

    Why did I not see through it before? i guess it took meeting the right people who showed me that there is honour and morality and goodness among those outside, and they did not deserve to die, whatever their religion... Coupled with a realisation that the opposite personalitiess could occur within . And we were approaching the Millenium of the calendar, but no sign of the millenium of the ''Tower!... strange? I thought.

    Why did i waste 50 years? because I was brought up in it but also because i liked the way of life , and I was not ready before to "Think the unthinkable" , that it could all be so totally wrong. After all when you are in it, it all makes sense , does not it?

    Thanks Steve Lowry and Mulan, very encouraging posts.

  • Steve Lowry
    Steve Lowry

    Your welcome!

  • ohiocowboy
    ohiocowboy

    SteveLowry, Thanks for the encouragement, I guess I need to start believing that myself, I am sure it would help the healing process!!!

  • wannaexit
    wannaexit

    I am ashamed to think that's what I was part of.

    wannaexit

  • Corvin
    Corvin

    I sort of feel like I am the recovering victim of a rape.

  • Soledad
    Soledad

    it's hard. I get very angry at times and I feel like screaming at my mother "how could you be so stupid!!" but I realize that its not her fault either, she was just doing what she thought was best as a parent.

  • flower
    flower

    This is going to sound wierd but after two years or so I am starting to think of my 29 years or so as a jw as a positive experience.

    I honestly believe it gives me an advantage over people who grew up pampered and spoiled by loving, supportive, free thinking families. I learned life lessons that many other people dont learn till they are old and gray.

    I may not have recognized the importance of teaching my son to be non judgemental, fair, a critical thinker, and to have a free mind had I not been taught these lessons myself the hard way.

    And had I not been treated so poorly by family and my 'brothers and sisters' I would not have been vulnerable enough to get involved with the scumbag that helped create my son in the first place. Therefore I would have my son had I not been a member of a cult so it was all worth it .

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    I agree there are are some positive things that happened because of being a JW.. but.. I still would have preferred I never would have been.

    I feel stupid that I just believed because my mother researched and found this to be the truth.. how stupid that I did not use my own brain to decide if it was the 'truth'.. but I was a little girl when she became a witness and I always found her to be a very intelligent woman

  • ApagaLaLuz
    ApagaLaLuz

    I was angry when I first discovered their cult-likeness, and they tried to convince me that I was crazy for thinking so. Now I'm done being angry. It's a waste of precious time in my opinion. I try to avoid using the word "cult" when it gets brought up in a conversation. Instead I just say I raised in a VERY STRICT RELIGOUS home. You get a lot less "this person must be crazy and emotionally scarred now" looks by avoiding that word. Unless of course someone who's interested in the religion asks me about it, then I try to use the word as much as possible

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