A Question Of Manners.

by Englishman 32 Replies latest social relationships

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  FlyingHighNow

  It's an ongoing problem and we're starting to dread being invited round to this particular couples house. They even get annoyed if we're at someone else's house and don't stay as long as they think that we should!

  Englishman.

  Okay, it's time to be honest with them and tell them exactly how you feel. You have feelings, too. Yours are just as important as theirs are. Manners? It needs to be pointed out to them that their manners are making you uncomfortable. Tell them your feelings count at least as much as theirs do. Honesty, in this case, is the best policy.

  I don't hang out with people who bring me down every single time. Life is too short. Why be unhappy when you can be happy?

  Flyin'
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  xenawarrior

  It's an ongoing problem and we're starting to dread being invited round to this particular couples house. They even get annoyed if we're at someone else's house and don't stay as long as they think that we should!

  okay, now with further clarification, I would say- yeah- like FHN said- tell them how you feel. They don't have a right to impose their own expectations on others and cause discomfort by doing so. That is rude. I'd just be honest with them and then if they don't wish to adjust their own expectations of others and the behavior that goes with it after you've spoken to them then you've done all you can.

  Good luck with it Eman !!

  XW
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  codeblue

  True friends do not control our actions.

  I think 5 hours is plenty time for partying....and I for one...don't like to wear my welcome out.

  Also, they don't need to know where you are going after leaving their house, that is another sign of control and manipulation!

  True friends allow you to be who you are and allow you to make your own decisions...

  They are not showing good manners to you.

  Codeblue