Neutrality....

by PriestessLizzie 34 Replies latest jw friends

  • Cassiline
    Cassiline
    Perhaps its your temperament. Some people are definitely more succeptible to group-think than others.

    I tend to doubt this as I was beaten over the head with JW beliefs day in and day out since birth by a father and grandmother who believed because of this religion if they did not teach such to their chidren, they would die as well as my brother, sister and myself.

    Jeeze I still cringe when looking at that picture of the little girl with her dolly going down into the crevice at armageddon in the Paradise Book. When I asked at the time why God would kill this child is was because her parents were evil-- they believed such. I was scared cowpattyless. Not only was I mentally abused but physcial as well. Many of my friends were as well-- all practiced by JW parents who did not want to dissapoint Jehovah.

    Gosh Prop really you do not believe that children are not susceptable to mind control via religious fanatics? And if you wish to take out the physical beatings and only leave that of what was drilled into my head daily-- 5 meetings a week plus field service and bible studies-- I still see mind control.

    What am I missing here?

    Cassi

  • PriestessLizzie
    PriestessLizzie

    If every organization that used mind control was considered a cult then in essence EVERY single organized religious group is actually a cult. Religion itself, whether it be JW, Mormon, Catholic, Baptist...whatever the case may be, has some sort of fear. Life itself would be cultish. Parents, even those who are agnostic or athiest, use fear to get their children to mind. "If you dont stop that I will ground you" That is fear. Fear of getting punished for something the child does wrong. This is my issue with organized religion. They all use some sense of fear - whether it be disappointing God, going to "hell", not getting into heaven, not getting a good life in the next one (reincarnation), not getting into a good level of heaven, etc etc...to further their own purpose. Its called discipline-and religion twists it to manipulate their followers into giving more money or adding to their statistics. But as I said before, some people actually need this sort of discipline in order to find their way to God.

    I myself believe there is a reaction for every action....karma baby, karma. If i send out negative energy I'm bound to get some back. If I hurt someone, I'm going to be hurt. So, I give what I want to get. I find that makes life more easy to deal with and I'm a far happier person for it.

    This forum makes up a group AND they try to control posters. Look how they are trying to hammer P-Liz. As I mentioned before they use ridicule NOT fact to keep you in line.

    Perhaps I'm naive, or maybe I'm just mature and intelligent enough to not care, but I haven't felt like I was being hammered. No one, from what I read, has ridiculed (well maybe Carmel but I would prefer to think I'm just not understanding him). The fact of the matter is - with me anyway- people can discuss what they wish, voice their opinions, etc etc (which is why i'm here after all) but it is MY choice whether or not to change my own view on the matter. I've lived without hatred or ill will towards the WTS since I left it and have no intention of changing my mind. Yes the majority posting here have obviously had some very bad experiences within the organization, but I haven't forgotten the good that it has done. Thus neutrality- perfect balance. In life you get the good and the bad. You cherish the good, you learn from the bad. I disagree that our minds were made to be controlled. I believe our minds were made to hold knowledge and to control ourselves and energies by utilizing that knowledge (some of it just comes naturally too.. of course i'm also a big bad witch who believes and practices magic and the brain is what controls that)

    Casie I believe it was you who said that some were forced to stay in the truth until they were 18. I stand corrected by your statement because you are absolutely correct. Children must do what their parents tell them to do until they are of age to make their own decisions. But on the same token, children are forced to clean house, do chores, follow curfew, and abide by their parents rules until they are of age as well. To me, it is one in the same. If the parents are in the truth and force their children to go it is the parents fault. My child goes to meetings with my mom by choice. She is also being taught what I believe. (poor mixed up child being told witches are evil and at the same time being taught the ways of a witch. Talk about confusion) It is her choice which path she will choose when she is ready. I am just liberal enough that I will allow her to do that at an earlier age. I remember hearing a talk once when I was about 20 years old at a convention. I remember this because I shot my mother an "I told you so look" because the brother had said "we cannot make the choices for our children, but we can teach them and guide them as best we can. In the long run, they will do what they want. Our jobs as parents are to give them the basics morals and foundations in which to make a proper choice" (that may not be word for word but I do believe it is very very close). My best friend was forced to go to Catholic School and to Sunday School and Mass when she was growing up and she never believed a word that was being spoken. JW's are NOT the only religion to do this to children and they certainly wont be the last.

    I still cringe when looking at that picture of the little girl with her dolly going down into the crevice at armageddon in the Paradise Book.

    I remember that and I agree wholeheartedly. I was so angry to think that Jehovah would kill an innocent child simply because their parents deserved it. This too is something I do not agree with, and this too is something all religions use- most say if the baby is not baptised they cant go to heaven so off the baby goes to get baptized and add another notch on the organizations bedpost (so to speak). Children cannot make a conscious decision as to which religion they wish to follow and so that right is taken from them when they are born. Really, everyone on this forum who has been either DF'd or DA'd when they dont really want to be a JW should count their blessings (in my opinion-OPINION). Sometimes when we're pushed onto a path that we didn't know we should be taking, we fall down and scrape our knee. It hurts, sure. We tend the wound-wash it, put on a bandaid (I like the clear ones myself but my child leans more towards Spongebob Squarepants Bandaids) and we venture down the new path to see where it will take us. Being DF'd or DAd was that push. Welcome to your new destiny (so to speak). Enjoy it- not everyone is lucky enough to discover theirs. Does that mean we cant take with us the knowledge that we were taught on the old path? Not at all. Look at me for Goddess sake. I believe Jehovah is God, I believe in heaven, I believe in Satan (most pagans/wiccans dont), I believe I am not going to heaven as I am not 144,000. I believe Jesus was God's son and lived on this earth and taught many people many valuable things....ah but here's the twist...I think the miracles were actually magic. I think he and Mary Magdalene were in love and married and had children. (there are YEARS missing about his life in the bible and several chapters that were deliberately omitted from the book by the catholic church-who at the same time was squashing out all faiths that turned to a female deity instead introducing the Virgin Mary as her replacement and christian holidays replacing those of the old religion) maybe it was Jesus' account of learning magic, his time talking about the Goddess, his love life with Mary, who knows- thats the thing with faith. No one REALLY knows what happened so you pick and choose what is right for you). But you see, I took the teachings from the JWs that made sense to me, that felt right, and still utilize it today. I've just added to it with new knowledge. (Not that I'm perfect and everyone should follow my example...was simply using myself as an example that it could be done). I just dont want anyone to feel ashamed for having a belief system, for taking teachings from their youth and instilling it in their day to day lives. There is nothing wrong with that. That's how we become adults. The important part is that we do make those choices and those decisions ourselves and not allow others to choose for us. (hence, when we turn 18 we decide if we want to stay or go).

    Going to bed now-and hopefully I wont have insomnia like last night and post endless thoughts in here. *waves*

  • PriestessLizzie
    PriestessLizzie

    Wait sorry...

    Didn't mean to ignore you Wednesday. In response, yes my family knows I am pagan. My mother when I lived with her actually found all of my witchcraft materials & altar when she was trying to be nice and rearrange my room for me as a surprise (she loves to decorrate). At first we got in a HUGE fight and she told me to leave our house, that she couldn't live with a Satan worshiper. But about an hour later she came in crying and asked me why I turned my back on Jehovah. We sat and talked (ah, communication!) for about two hours and I explained everything to her, about how I still loved him and still prayed to him, but how I also believed there was more gifts that he gave us that society was "afraid" of so labeled it "evil". It was rocky for the first week but she got over it and loves me just the same. Does the congregation know I am? Probably not, but I haven't seen any of them for years so it doesn't matter to me. Was my family special or more respected? Not any different from the rest of them. Maybe Arizona is just different? I've been to several congregations in the state in several cities and they were all the same. I never had any problems with them really (OH i do have a molestation experience-not me but a friend. I'll have to tell that one sometime, but the end result was justice & grief). The ones who "courted" me as you said were very loving brothers and the pioneer sister (144,000) had known me since I was born. I saw her actually not very long ago and she hugged me and said she missed me. Talked to me like she always had, and i was wearing a Pentagram necklace that was sure to be noticed. Whenever I do run into any of them, they smile, they wave- most dont talk to me (naturally) but they have never been rude or impolite. I am glad I have these experiences, and am very sorry for those who did not. But this is how I was taught- to love everyone and show kindness no matter what. If they were "bad associations" then try to help them but if they refuse then step away from them (because as proplog2 said the human nature is to join the crowd. How did the brothers always phrase it? "One bad apple spoils the whole bunch" i believe it was), but never stop loving them. That I believe was the true foundation of what I was taught growing up and what I see as the foundation of the WTS. Doesnt mean I'm right of course, but its right in my particular case. I also remember being taught that when one was DF/DA their family still remained close (of course they hoped that by setting this example of love, compassion, and forgiveness it would help the DF/DA member to repent and turn back to Jehovah and the truth) but they had a choice to cut ties if they chose to, based on the severity of the matter and on their own consciouses. The ONLY thing that wasn't supposed to be discussed was the truth itself. Only elders could do that-with the exception of children and parents. They could discuss it but the husband couldnt discuss with the wife, etc etc. I might add, that I do remember when my dad was disfellowshipped he felt worthless. he lost his friends and he thought we would never forgive him (and all he did was smoke). But it was the routine visits by the elders that impressed me, and overhearing them tell him "Tommy, Jehovah loves you and so does your family, we all do". He just couldn't quit. He couldn't stop smoking. *takes a drag off her cigarrette* darn addictions. But we were in a small town so that might have made a difference. These same elders were involved in the molestation story that i will eventually tell as well. (that was my attempt at leaving you all hanging on my every word and eager to read my next long drawn out post). GOODNIGHT

  • proplog2
    proplog2
    I disagree that our minds were made to be controlled

    I didn't say that our minds were made to be controlled. I said our minds "evolved" to be controlled.

    The purpose of nervous systems is to speed up re-action. It does this by remembering what works. The organism cannot control the mind. The organism does have a little control over what it pays attention to.

    The purpose of most meditative practice is to develop habits of attention. You only have a fraction of a second to re-act. The advantage is you learn to use the fraction of a second to actually "look" at your situation.

    This is probably the hardest thing for humans to do. It's easier to just let the mind play back an old program.

  • larc
    larc

    I agree that all religions, all groups for that matter demand some degree of conformity to the group. Sometimes the move to conformity is done without much awareness on the person's part. This is the case with Groupthink. Members all eventualy think alike. This does have some positive benefits. Members have good feelings about the group. They have high espredecor (sp?). They believe that their group is right and they may feel that their group is better than others. Is this mind control. I think not. It is an automatic process. Mind control implies that their is a concerted effort on the part of the group to "change people's minds. This is not the case with groupthink. ............................................................................................ Cassi, you said that you still had emotional reactions to things you learned as a child. Proplog mentioned the psychological construct of field independence. The opposite is field dependence. These people are more suseptable to influence and the effect of influence. I maintain that what ever is learned can be unlearned. I don't know the best way for you to do this, but it can be done. Perhaps, a good therapist could help you in this area.

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