I wouldn't give them the benefit of my presence. The last meeting I went to was the memorial 2002. I was still trying to put on a happy face I didn't want my kids to loose all their friends. By this point it actually made me sick to my stomach and I had a feeling of anxiety my heart pounding ( I don't normally have anxiety problems) They sent us a letter saying we had been accused of apostasy and that we were to attend a jucdical committe etc. I called them and said that day was not good for my husband and I and we promptly wrote them a letter saying we were not Apostates of Jesus Christ, we believe in all of his teachings and live our lives according ly. I said if they made any announcement at the Kingdom Hall regarding me or my family I would consider it slander and I would retain a lawyer and sue them. They never said a thing to us after that. People started shunning us and I called up the PO and asked why people were shunning us, and if they had made an announcement of any sort. He assured me no DF or DA announcement had been made, but reminded me that people talk amongst themselves and that was probably why we were being shunned. MY Dad is still a witness and he says the rumor he heard is that we were df'd. So that is what people say. I've sinced moved to a different state and I really don't care.
Should I go sit at the kh next thurs when they announce my DF
by cindykp 71 Replies latest jw friends
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Dragonlady76
I wouldn't give them the benefit of my presence
This would show them that you are wrong not them.
I would never allow them to have the opportunity to look down on me, If it was me in this situation, I would go with my chin up, and smile. Never let them see you sweat. That is the best way to show them that you are an individual with self love and respect that you will not be oppressed by the society and cong.
Quote: He who angers you, controls you.
Dragonlady76
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moshe
Jump up after the DF announcement and cry out " You promised me ,if I did what you wanted nothing would happen to me- you took advantage of me!!!" If you act out the part right, I'm sure you will get some sympathy!
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La Capra
I have not been to a Kingdom Hall since August of 1987. My life plan was never to go again-not even for my mother's memorial service. But-I would happily attend any disfellowshipping or disassociation (or soon to be "no longer one of Jehovah's Witnesses") announcement, to support and congratulate the newly liberated (margaritas immediately following!).
Of all the actions we take to discourage others from making (or continuing to make) some of the mistakes we have made, I think this could be one of the more compelling. At a point where the individual is supposed to be at his lowest, most desperate, getting cut off from his love and community, the message that this person is not being cast out into nothingness would, in the least, aid the person leaving. At its best, some of the younger, unbaptized ones, might see that there is a whole universe of support outside the Kingdom Hall.
I'll go anywhere in the San Francisco Bay Area to lend my support and congratulations.
Shoshana
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pratt1
I went to my DFing. I am glad that I did. I would not give them the satisifaction that they had defeated my spirit.
Go and hold your head up high. You have nothing to be ashamed of. All of the shame belongs to the BORG.
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Doubtfully Yours
Unless you mean to return to the WTBTS, don't waste your time going.
DY
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rwagoner
Sunny.....I remember that family in New Hampshire too....come to our congo for awhile...took like a couple of months before the elders found out who they actually were...by then everyone thought they were wonderful...and then the big announcement came...LOL...OOOOPS....not so wonderful after that.
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darkuncle29
Lots of fun ideas. I think that for the most part, to go in and make a spectacle--causing a scene, being obnoxious-- of one's self, just reinforces their idea of what an "Apostate" is. I think that going in and sitting with a big smile, or even an "Angelic Face" is better, and a group of supporters even more so.
I guess my way of thinking is to let them be the lunatics frothing at the mouth from their Luv fer GaWd, and let us behave like rational, mature human beings.
With all that said, if I am ever DF'd, I will be showing up with as many Drag Queens and Leather Daddys as I can find. Beads anyone?
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Sweetp0985
I don't know if I missed the thread about what happened, but just curious about what happened? Did you go? Am I the only one wondering??? Am I the only one that a few days late in asking about this?
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kj
Can you just imagine if about 20 of us went and sat in the first couple of rows, not letting anyone know what was up. And every one stood up and clapped? Man, that would be a site to see. We cant forget the party hats and whistles!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I wish I was near you. I would so totally love to help you celebrate your freedom!