NL2 - I did read your link. This is sponsored by RIGHTMARCH.COM and appears to be an attempt to politicize what should be a private matter. There were a disturbing number of requests for monetary donations. I saw no compelling evidence that would lead me to believe the parents' version vs. the husband's version.
Unfortunately this woman's wishes aren't documented in writing. That is why the courts have been involved and have handed down numerous rulings, supported by experts and existing law.