Do you consider yourself as being 'reasonable? ' (page 2)

Xena

Extremely. I am comfortable admitting when I'm wrong. I enjoy hearing and discussing several sides of an issue and I understand how varying circumstances and situations can alter things.

freedom96

I am a reasonable person, and very easy to get along with.

Depends upon whose reasoning you are dealing with, I consider myself an reasonable person. Yet there are those who can feel I am "unreasonable" due to my strong stance on something. I do try to look at things from the other's perspective.

Reasoning is and can, be interpreted, misunderstood and unfortunately people read into things. Adding thier own reasoning for the reason.. (did that come out right?) So to you it may be a reasonable reaction or "normal" reaction to the reason or issue. An the other person thinks you are being unreasonable, because it isn't the action they expected from you, based on thier own reasons or thinking on the matter. So they project to you that you are being "unreasonable" because they cannot or will not try to look at things from a different perspective. So anyone can be considered unreasonable at any point and time, depending on who you are reasoning with.

That is why communication is important and yet, when you are dealing with a closed mind (they have made up thier mind and have thier "reasons") then you may have to think outside of the box to get your point across or understood. Have I made you dizzy with my reasoning yet ? lol

X.

Golf

Interesting comments. Xandria, no you didn't get me dizzy, I agree with you.

The following comes from experience while traveling by car. There's a road sign that tells us to "YIELD," well, I often come across this sign and people DO NOT YIELD. These people just drive on as though they have the right of way! Their attitude is 'screw' you.

Reasonableness to me is like that 'yield' sign, you yield to others. I let people express their opinions and I have no objections because its their right. To me its a 'given' for others to have their points of view. I don't demean them and call them stupid,ignorant or every other foul language you can express because they don't agree with my opinion. This attitude is unreasonable.

Golf

blondie

Yes and no.

I'm not a rock, my emotions get the better of me at times.

Can emotions be tempered by good reasoning? I think so.

To get a little "philosophical," there are times when the decision is a personal, individual one, to be weighed from that perspective. Sometimes your decision has to be made in the light of how things proceed in the community at large.

Wisdom is seeing the difference.

Blondie

Golf

Blondie, I'm glad you have emotions, that means your 'alive' and 'well.' Yes, a number of factors come into play when dealing with emotions. Think in terms of your over-all life in dealing with people and in stressful situations. I'm not asking for perfection here, but reasonableness.

I think my comments about the yield sign gives us a clue as to our reasonablenes, do we yield to others? My father-in-law was a reasonable person and he wasn't a Christian. He loved life and always had a sense of humor. Interesting how my mother-in-law could never rattle his cage, in fact, no one could. He was a well built man with strength. He can pick you up with one arm. I was priviledged to have a father-in-law like him.

Thanks for your thoughts.

Golf

mtbatoon

I would only let those who know me decide.

googlemagoogle

i am reasonable. everyone else is not. don't even try to change my stance on that.

Narkissos

Even if we limit "reasonable" to "yielding" (in French "raisonnable" also means "sensible," which might be broader), I would draw a line between yielding to opinionated people without thinking they are right (just because you don't feel the need to argue, or for the sake of peace) and being really convinced. As to the latter I've found that I can't be convinced without convincing myself, and that usually takes a little time. But it still happens quite often.

I guess most xJWs have a long practice of changing their minds, which is quite healthy imo.

Golf

mtbatoon, did you get to read Xandria's comments?

Golf

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