at a circuit assembly while df the bro who was the chairman of my jc had an item about disciplining children..he said that when a child has done something wrong its not enough for them to say they are sorry and that they wont do it again..they have to be punished too in order to impress upon them the seriousness of what they had done....fair enough so far...he then had it demonstrated:-
little boy on stage with mother who finds out he hasnt done his homework and has lied about it...says hes sorry but mother says..ok but no playstation for a week..this is agony for the child but not unreasonable..at the end of the week he gets the playstation back and he gives his mother and father a big hug
now lets say that aswell as taking away his playstation away they also said he had to stay in his room for a week...bit more severe but not nessercarily life threatening
now lets say that they locked him up for 18 months...no friends no family no school no playstation sleeps alone eats alone no conversation and after a while it no longer serves as discipline..this is now cruelty..his frustration turns into anger as he shouts down to his parents i am sorry i am why wont you believe me how can i prove it locked up in this room..and he kicks the door ...so his parents say well for that you get another 6 months....eventually he loses hope his spirit crushed and as such becomes depressed disillusioned unstable and physically and mentally ill.....his parents unlock the door and as he drags himself out of the room they hold their arms out wide for him to come to them and he says...
you have got to be joking....sure he may well do everything that is expected of him for as long as he has to remain under their roof..but it sure aint out of love anymore
well thats what j did to me....not directly maybe but since he isnt doing anything directly to anyone then all we have to gauge j love for us is how his spirit directed org deals with us and they kept telling me this is what j wants for you
i will never love him again