Mini, you can always go apologize to her daughter, that would probably mean a hell of a lot to her.
Ex elders, have you apologized to anyone you df'd?
by avishai 48 Replies latest jw friends
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minimus
They moved away a long time ago.
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delilah
I had an ex-elder apologize to me for his part in my disfellowshipping. He tried his best to stave them off, and at the time I could see that he was, but they were intent on doing it..They had to know ALL the gorey details as well, and this ex-elder, who is a very close friend of mine, was visibly embarrassed over their questions. I often wondered if they went home and played with themselves afterwards......dirty old creeps...hearing about the things "they" can't get at home ........ugh...gross....despicable.
Dee
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roybatty
For instance, especially kids under the age of eighteen,
Yes, a young man we df'd for smoking. He was 16 at the time.
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stillajwexelder
No I have not but I should - I onee disfellowshipped a 24 year old male for fornication -poor guy had just gotten himself his first girlfriend and she was "worldly" and so he had some worldly sex - I DFd him or should I say chaired the committee that DFd him. Not seen him for a few years but if i DID i WOULD APOLOGIZE -THERE ARE MANY OTHERS BUT i WOULD NOT APPOLOGIZE TO THE CILD MOLESTERS
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rocketman
I haven't really had an opportunity - any who were df'd by committees I sat on have not bumped into me (or I them) and I'm not especially inclined to call them, since I've lost track of where they are.
There's another factor too - the people who were df'd were part of the religion too. What I mean is, they assent to the whole process, just as I did as an elder. It's all part of the religion. I can't see the point in issuing an apology for doing what we all understood at the time as my job.
But, if I had abused anyone verbally or emotionally, or asked inappropriate questions, or been unduly harsh, then I would feel compelled to apologize. But as far as I can tell, I treated those before the committee with respect and tried never to ask improper questions. Actually, I never really asked many questions at all. I mostly stayed quiet during the proceedings.
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avishai
I think if i had been involved, I'd have to get on the horn with everyone I'd df'd. Except the child molesters
I think I'm even gonna change that part. I'd apologize to them for not turning them into the authorities if i did'nt, especially young molesters, and not getting them the help they need.
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Angry
Man i had no idea that their was abook with all those stupid questions like how did he caress your breast bullshit! I was 13 yrs. old when I was d-f.I lost my virginity to a loser while i was drunk.i had snuck out that night my parents totally freaked and my dad hated me for a very long time because he lost his poor position as an elder. boohoo boo hoo! I wished I could get a hold of that book. that's enough evidence to bring them down.hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
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minimus
Rocketman, I agree.