Do you ever think that you will stop JW-bashing and get on with your life? (page 2)

greendawn

I also agree that we should inform and educate people about the Watchtower society and what they are really up to, to help minimise the future victims and also assist those that want to get out.

Also I believe they will keep blasting you with negative energies and lock you into battle whether you want this or not.

Confession

Excellent question and one that hits home with me as someone who has only come to understand the truth about the WTS in the last 9 months. Number one, I DEFINITELY don't want to spend rest of my life focusing on damaging anyone or anything. At the same time I'll admit I've been drawn to this message board--not because I get a kick out of finding new and creative ways to flame the WTS, but because I'm in a predicament that almost no one in my life (who is not a JW) can really understand, and one that I'm unable to voice among JWs without a landslide of pain falling upon me. Here people understand.

I completely respect those ex-JWs who have decided to get on with their life and (pretty much) not speak of the WTS again. But I can also respect someone like Bill Bowen. Now I traded a number of e-mails with him some time ago, and I think his manner (and some of the things he says) may not have a beneficial effect--particularly on current JWs who find in his gruffness and occasional exaggerations exactly what they need to accept the sterotype the WTS creates about "apostates." However I can't help but appreciate his steadfast commitment to shine light on an organization where sexual abusers can find an uncalled for degree of protection. I believe he is helping former victims of abuse and trying hard to help limit the potential for future abuse. This wouldn't happen if he (and others like him) simply decided to let it go and get on with their lives.

As for me, my first goal is to try and find a way to put this 63-year, four generation disaster behind me as best I can. But I want my family and friends to know what I know. If they decide to continue in the organization, I will continue to love them--and not to resort to "bashing" at every opportunity. Just as I think it's wrong to let the Society continue providing an environment that invites pedophilia, I also think it's wrong to stand idly by while peoples' lives are being commandeered by an institution of men--who keep them in subjection by threatening them with a gruesome cutting off from their family and friends for merely deciding these men may not be God's sole channel to the planet after all. If they don't want to listen, I'll accept that and move on. But what would it say about me if I didn't at least try? You could say it might be the most sensible thing on a personal level, but don't I have ANY obligation whatsoever to at least try to help my fellowman/woman?

booker-t

Some of you posters think that my classmate is taking being an ex-jw lightly. Her whole family especially her mom are "devout" JW's. Until her Disfellowshipping she was a 3rd generation JW. She is being shunned by her whole family so trust me she is getting her dose of Anti-ex-jw attacks from her JW family. And she is such a nice and fun person to talk to. No bitterness at all from her and she was baptized at the age of 10 years old and "pioneered" all in her teens. The only way I found out she was an ex-jw is because we were talking about "cults" in my psychology class and I was telling the class about my involvement with the JW's and after class she told me she understood just what I was talking about. But she has no hostility towards JW's. So Jeanniebeaz your comment was totally unfounded.

confusedjw

I'll move on and bash when warrented.

jeanniebeanz

Booker,

I'm sure you like this girl a great deal, especially in light of her cavalier attitude toward her situation. However, for someone to make the statements that you say she made is not showing a lot of life experience. She cannot possibly be able to judge how other people should feel based upon her own reaction to being df'd. For her to feel that she knows what other people should be doing, is presumptous and judgemental.

My comments were not unfounded, though they may have irritated you because of your 'like' for this girl.

J

LyinEyes

Booker I wonder if your friend , even thou she is exjw, did you say she was disfellowshipped?

Some who are d/f , still believe it to be the closet thing to the truth, so they still have attachment to it.

My hubby ran across someone like this at work the other day. He was d/f , shaved head, goatee, and having fun. But he was not comfortable talking apostate stuff. He said most exjw's , or more directly apostates are just bitter.

My hubby told him we didnt leave because we sinned and just wanted to live our own lives, but that we no longe believed it to be truth. This guy said that the "jw's have the closet thing to truth", and so he is still attached.

There is a difference in being bitter ,angry for being d/f than leaving the religion because you cant go along with the WT lies anymore.

So not all exjw's are gruntled. They just tell their stories and why they left. OF course there is bitterness to a decree, mainly because of the years of being lied to , and the hardships but on us while we tried so hard to be perfect JW's.

Sunspot

I was recently talking to a girl in my psychology class who told me that she use to be a JW

I looked at your age and figured you must be a teacher---and she was your student. Probably high school age. Thats what I based my post on and why I said what I did.

Now it comes out that she is your classmate and had pioneered all through her teens. Sometimes we need a bit more in the way of background in order to grasp a situation and be able to respond appropriately.

Annie

DannyHaszard

Some of us get paid to bash or in my case an investment,giving the watchtower cult a run for it's money.Eventually my investment will pay big when the Watchtower is forced to settle my damage claims for compensation and restitution. Money 2 Meanwhile miserable dreams dashed devout Jehovah's Witnesses are growing old and dying and the ones who have died are all still dead. Tombstone

Do you ever think that you will stop JW-bashing and get on with your life?