Amen! Yes, why waste your life on some thing you cannot change?
Golf
Do you ever think that you will stop JW-bashing and get on with your life?
by booker-t 67 Replies latest jw friends
-
Golf
-
jgnat
The JW's continue to affect me every day. Like it or not, I am married to the society. I come here to express myself in a free forum, a necessary outlet. Also, at least three times a week, a non-JW either dating or married to a JW wanders in here for advice.
Warning them what they are up against must be a valuable public service of some kind.
Also, there are few forums around any more where deep topics about the meaning of life, God, etc. are discussed in an intelligent way. The linguists and the programmers who post her add new dimension to understanding my own mind. I absorb their posts with interest.
I'm not in to scrapbooking, sorry. I need a little more stimulation than that.
-
carla
Why is even talking about the wt considered 'bashing'? In my home even bringing up the old stuff, my husband considers it, 'digging up dirt'. I guess he doesn't realize just what he is actually saying. Will today's new light be tomorrows dirt? Why is looking at any other history ok, but not when it comes to the wt? carla
-
sandy
Booker T, I agree with your friend and I hope to one day finally feel completely free of the org.
That may not be possible though. Just as abused people get on and stop being a victim they can never forget the abuse they suffered. And they feel compelled to help others.
It is good for us to move on but not forget. We can still live productive lives and help others who need support. Those newly out or those who want out.
Yes some of us are bitter, angry, lonely, sad, but many of us are also happy or at least on the right track to happiness and true peace of mind. The point is we are all in different places. It is easy for us to sit in judgement of others and say "you are just bitter, get over it." But it's important that we remember we have not walked in the shoes of the other person. -
Soledad
Being a JW since birth has affected just about everything in my life: my choice in jobs, schooling, housing, dress, principles, ethics, etc. It's a part of who I am but being an ex is NOT who I am. I am much more than that. And as someone else said: if there weren't people online who "bashed" I would still think that the WT has the truth.
-
JW83
I agree with most responses here - why is talking about the society openly seen as 'bashing'? Because it is all negative?! Why is all negative talk seen as 'apostate'?
The facts are there & need to be talked about, constantly, particularly in light of child abuse victims & victims of shunning. The WTS continues to inflict pain on individuals - sometimes lifelong pain. The only sort-of cure is openness, being able to communicate, both between ourselves & to others. It is a form of therapy for us & a way of warning others & protesting against the wrongs.
I think your friend is tarring everybody with an 'unhealthy obsession apostate' brush - she obviously hasn't come to terms with her experience, because she did not talk about it openly in class.
Jayne
-
Rabbit
"Bashing" to me has always meant an action that was un-fair or un-warranted.
I hardly see how the word "bashing" even applies to what we feel about the WTBTS.
They are responsible for real DEATHS of REAL people all over this globe by leading people to believe that blood tranfusions, organ transplants, political issues and even telling their followers that vaccinations actually gave disease in the past.
My mother and thousands of others are dead and in their graves, because of being mis-led by this cult.
THAT IS NOT "BASHING", THAT IS TELLING THE REAL TRUTH !
As far as "going on with our lives," yes if it's possible for someone to do that...great. I wish that for everyone, especially me.
HOWEVER, as long as my own children shun me, I have a responsibility...I helped teach this shitty religion to them ans as long as there is life in my body, I will try, out of love for them...to plant seeds of doubt in them. It is a mission for me to try and un-do something I ignorantly passed on to another generation.
I want it to stop here, don't you ?
Rabbit
-
TresHappy
I first thought that when I left the JW's, all ex JW's bashed the organization. I was still mentally loyal and it took years to get over it.
-
Golden Girl
I really don't think that girl is being totally honest with herself..unless she hates her relatives that are JW's.
How can you not be upset when your relatives turn their back on you?
If that truly doesn't bother her..she really has a problem.
After I left..that was it. I never really thought that much about it.But when hubby decide to be an active JW again..it was being shoved down my throat! Then I got angry.
And because I care about others..reading about what some Ex-Jehovah's witnesses go through on a daily basis..breaks my heart!
Knowing that your relatives have to consider you "Dead" has to hurt in some way. How can it not? Especially if you live with them.
Or the parents that once loved and nurtured you..turn their back on you..wouldn''t this hurt a "Normal" human being?
Maybe the love wasn't there to begin with..
Snoozy...
-
Gill
I'm not willing to stop until the Tower falls....and it will.
Gill