If The Elders Wanted To Disfellowship YOU, What Action Would YOU Take? (page 7)

minimus

I think that if I do get df'd (sooner or later), it will be easier to take if my mom deals with it in a better way.

AK - Jeff

Only that when some elders get hold of the letter, they'd know you've read Ray Franz's book, or consider it proof enough: you're a confirmed apostate, haha. :)

True Gozz, but that is kinda the idea. If a person in that position can buy two weeks it would give him/her time to notify those he cared about that it was happening, and that no sins were really committed to justify. In fact - I have considered the idea of using the words Crisis of Conscience in context in the letter, but let the reader discover that it was a book if he is so inclined. Like; Crisis of Conscience . So you are sending enough signal to help the other guy if he gets the point, but not enough to turn him against you as an 'evil apostate'. Who knows he might see the book someday, and it might click!

Let's face it - if they want to DF you, they will! But at least this way all the negative gossip and hateful speech that goes with it will seem out of context to those whom you have written. You might come out as the only sane person in the deal, if they are fair. I never knew of anyone who was Df'd for trying to be a decent and honorable person.[There may have well been some, but without intimate knowledge I was left to assume the worse.] I think if someone wrote me that sort of letter, in spite of great indoctrination, I would probably remember it for years, and he/she would be the first place I would go if 'doubts' ever crept into my thinking.

Who knows if someone might follow you out if they were nurturing doubts and had no way [or were afraid to] to confirm them. Now, you might be the one they turn to. Maybe in a week, or maybe in a decade.

IMHO

Jeff

greendawn

To me it would make no difference since the JWs mean nothing to me socially, they are an impenetrable lot, and since also they have nothing special as they claim, I would just ignore them.

candidlynuts

i think i'd finally get on the internet and find out what the apostates are saying lol

144001

I'd hump their wives in the same beds their husbands sleep in and leave my fluids on their pillows.

Honesty

I played Mexican shoot-out with them and called the apostates at Bethel and DF'd them. Then called 2 of the most prominent local elders and told them I quit. Then a few weeks later I started attending church. They are still pissed because they got beat at their own game of Russian Roulette. It ain't the 'truth' so their threats of no resurrection and Joe Hoba is gonna off me at the Big A is BS, so who gives a rat's (sorry JH) arse.

Swan

I wrote them a short letter long before they ever thought about contacting me about anything. I told them I didn't want to be known as a JW any more. For me it was important to divorce myself from them, and sever the connection between me and their hogwash totally. It was an important step in establishing my independence and my new life.

I also wrote long letters to my family and explained my decision and the reasons for it.

This is probably the wrong approach for most people, however, since my family did not take it well at all. If I had it to do over again, though, I would do the same. It was the right thing for me and it sent a strong message to my family about how I felt about their religion, and how differently I felt about them. They just couldn't separate the two, and could not understand that my rejection of their god was a completely different thing from the affection that I felt for them.

Tammy

Dragonlady76

I would threaten them with legal action.....but I never drank the kool aide!

DL76

crazyblondeb

I woud want to go out guns blazing. Don't make it easy on them personally. Hell, write a letter to the editor, have a keg party the night the elders are coming over, print fliers and put on cars all over town, take an ad out in the newpaper, make the biggest stink before they know what even hit them!! I figure they made my life hell for 20 years, & tore up my family, the least I can do is make them work for their titles.

The christmas after my Df'ing, me and aother "apostate" decorated the hall early one Sunday morning. We strung up battery operated lights, tinsel EVERWHERE, couple cards superglued to the front door.

It took them 2 weeks to get all the tinsel out of the yard.

shelley

wannaexit

We have a family plan. It's based on what we have learned on this board.

If the elders ever came after my husband and I we would sue the local elders.

wanna

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