i've been browsing the site for some time as things that the society teach just are not adding up much these days.
by exploring some of the threads on here i'm starting to see why.
a brief bio.
Welcome purrpurr.
Your presence here as very encouraging.
You might feel "rather naughty" for being here right now, but that wont last, and you'll soon be wishing you came here years ago.
I'm looking forwards to hearing more about your personal journey.
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i have been back to meetings for a month now.
prepared for them all except for when i went on holiday.. todays wt is about jehovah's organisation, it's clear loaded language and manipulation through fear.
i am not perturbed by it in the least.
Such is the cult mentality, the CoBE's wife probably reasons that it is her wonderful God Jehovah who is directing matters.
No such thing as a 'coincidence' for a JW. It's either Jehovah, or Satan. End of.
You now sound very happy Kate, that's the most important thing.
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i'm quite new to this site, & have realised some members have a union jack symbol under their avatar.
i don't.. could we have a "show of hands" from any uk members?
i've already found several by reading older posts..
Thanks bigmac, hadn't seen this thread before.
Northumberland here (Tyne & Wear No.1 Circuit)
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i thought it was high time to introduce myself (without my name of course).
as my name would suggest i have been reading your intriguing post, thoughts and discussions for some time now.
around 3/4 months to be exact.. i guess to start with it would seem fitting to give a little background on my current situation.. i'm a born-in, but have over the last few years found that through a number of varying occurences, (some of which i may discuss in future posts) that my 'zeal' has gone from regular field service and meetings to no service in over a year and very sporadic meeting attendance.
lurkernomore: welcome aboard.
I was a lurker for a short time too, but as you are experiencing for yourself, there are so many helpful and friendly people who post here.
I hope you experience the same amount of happiness I have had since leaving the JW cult.
Keep posting.
TF1
(Northumberland, England)
last month, my best friend of four years and boyfriend of six months came home from a jehovah's witness convention.
he'd been acting strangely the entire weekend and i knew something was wrong.
i initiated a discussion and he said, "essentially our relationship is wrong and i'm not supposed to be with you.
Thanks for sharing your story tiff, sad as it is.
It's interesting that he went a bit weird after the convention. Maybe 3 days of guilt-inducing talks messed with his mind? Maybe he thinks 'the end is near' and he needs to put things right with Jehovah? (Oh dear)
He sounds emotionally immature. I say that because he simply cannot be himself.
He is/was one person with you, and a completely different person to others (family, other JW's).
He hasn't decided yet who HE wants to be, who HE really is.
He sounds very unhappy now that your relationship has ended. I think he is in turmoil too.
He has the power to decide to walk away from the JW's, but he doesn't seem to realise that yet. Other people are influencing him. I think he (unnecessarily) feels powerless.
He clearly does not want or enjoy the JW lifestyle but is feeling pressure to conform, due to family ties.
From what you have written, you sound as if you could both be very happy together... except that freakin' cult is messing him up, deep inside his mind.
Bottom line: If he remains oblivious to the fact that he's in a mind control cult, you have no happy future with him.
Please let us know how things work out.
Take care.
TF1
a tragic, but honest, story.
well written, in my opinion.. i'd like to see how the local jw's would handle this being mentioned to them this saturday morning in the ministry.. it's just a shame it's only a local newspaper, not a national.. www.bucksherald.co.uk/news/more-news/former-jehovah-s-witness-leaves-memorial-to-family-who-shunned-her-1-6206648.
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Zoos: Here's the sign.
Make the image larger and it all becomes readable.
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if you have not yet had a chance, go to youtube, and look at the whole range of videos from "nonstamp collector".
oh wow!.
the way this guy presents the biblical accounts is very very good!.
stuckinarut2: Thanks for sharing that. I was unaware of this YT channel.
Just watched Quiz Show (Bible Contradictions).
Fast paced and very funny.
I'll trust that the scriptural quotes are accurate, and I'll check some of them out when I get time.
I hope his other vids are just as good.
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a tragic, but honest, story.
well written, in my opinion.. i'd like to see how the local jw's would handle this being mentioned to them this saturday morning in the ministry.. it's just a shame it's only a local newspaper, not a national.. www.bucksherald.co.uk/news/more-news/former-jehovah-s-witness-leaves-memorial-to-family-who-shunned-her-1-6206648.
tf1.
A tragic, but honest, story. Well written, in my opinion.
I'd like to see how the local JW's would handle this being mentioned to them this Saturday morning in the ministry.
It's just a shame it's only a local newspaper, not a national.
TF1
recently a jw friend that my wife & i knew 3 years ago added me on facebook, after i accepted the request she invited me to a dinner that her and her husband are holding next month.. i imagined that she was unaware of our apostasy, so i declined the invitation on the basis of not wanting to ruin her dinner after the rest of her guests fled at our presence.. i'm never sure how old friends will react when i tell them that i'm no longer a jw.. usually their response is "..... permanent-silence......".
her response went something like this, " we are all out!
everyone that is coming is out we all look forward to seeing you guys so much" it turns out that there will be 6 people at the dinner all friends of ours from a congregation that we attended a few years back.. they have all left the organization recently.. pretty crazy experience..
Fantastic news!
I think most of us would like an exprience like that.
That's going to be one hell of a reunion.
If it's anything like the time I met up with my 'apostate' friend who woke up 5 years before me, you'll all be talking over each other and have to slow down to give each other time to speak.
Enjoy your night, you lucky sod.
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after reading from another thread, i felt it was worth asking this question.. if you left the borg on your own, have you attempted to meet others whom you used to be connected with while you were "in", but who have also become ex-jw's before or after you have left the wts?
if that's the case, has it remained a friendship, or the connection grew cold?
just curious as to what keeps friendships "stick" [or not] once you no longer have the borg's doctrinal glue.. your experiences are welcome.. eden.
There was a sister who I always got on really well with. She left about 5 years ago. Sadly, 'the devil overtook her' and she took the apostate route.
I occasionally saw her in the supermarket, but I would never shun her. (My wife did though, and she still does)
Now that 'the devil has also overtaken me' and I too have taken the apostate route, we're great friends once again.
Re-connecting with her has been a great help while going through the ups 'n' downs of "waking up" to TTATT.
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