Don't sweat it David.
Yes even if someone knows stuff about JWs from studying them or knowing them it's never ever the same as having been one. You really had to have been there to get it!
It must be so nice that someone cares so much about you they will go into bat for you with a bunch of ex-jws lol.
For the sake of your mental and emotional health the trick is that whatever happens on this site, walk away, back to the real world and leave on this site. But please come back and say hi.
All the best to you
Sparrow xo