Posts by Phaedra

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You have to be strong

by troubled mind in

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standing up for yourself,and deciding to follow your own path takes strength .

you have to be strong especially if you were raised in a way of life that dictated so much of who you were .

while being raised as a jehovah's witness i was taught to follow ,unquestionally follow .i was told to put others before myself ,serve,don't stand out ,don't be independent .

Phaedra

That was beautiful, troubled mind.

Phae

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THE TRUTH IS AN ILLUSION and here is the process which proves it.

by Terry in

a wall is a wall, right?

question: what if each day a brick was removed and replaced with wood?.

the watchtower religion pretends to be like a brick wall built of truth.. however, each brick of truth been replaced with wood (changing opinion.).

Phaedra

Terry,

I mark you a "G" on good use of illustrations.

Phae

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too nice and polite

by Phaedra in

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anyone finding themselves being labeled as "too nice" or "polite" after being a lifelong jw and integrating into the "new world" of realistic beings?.

Phaedra

Affirming of the best kind! Thanks for sharing your thoughts, everyone.

My sense of neutrality has served me well, but I can really ramp it up on the assertiveness front.

Hortensia, love that!

Phae

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too nice and polite

by Phaedra in

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anyone finding themselves being labeled as "too nice" or "polite" after being a lifelong jw and integrating into the "new world" of realistic beings?.

Phaedra

anyone finding themselves being labeled as "too nice" or "polite" after being a lifelong JW and integrating into the "new world" of realistic beings?

I give up. My JW upbringing killed my realisitc equiping of being in this world.

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Be effective or people will die

by Odrade in

my husband and i have been out of the org for quite some time, but still find that old ideas and values come up and bite us on the ass.. lately, i've been plagued by an increase in the frequency and severity of my nightmares (which have always been an issue,) so i've begun to dream journal.

in just a few days, this realization cropped up.

i can't save people.. i've been blogging again recently.

Phaedra

Odrade,

Love how you write ~ and that you've carved out a container for your creative expression.

Phae

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Joined 11/29/2002

by lisavegas420 in

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yep, i joined 12 years ago today.

just thought i'd do a drive by and a shout out.

i'm still happy to be free.

Phaedra

Congrats, Lisa.

I've been around a lot longer than my current avatar notes, so can relate.

I always read your user name as "Lisa saves gas 420." Isn't that funny? :)

Phae

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What do you have to be thankful for?

by NewYork44M in

given the recent holiday, i can't help but reflect that this has been a very good year and my life is pretty damn good.

there was a lot of hard work, but i get a sense that i am finally reaping the benefits of years of effort.. what do you have to be thankful for and has 2014 been a good year?.

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Phaedra

Quite a bit, in fact.

When I'm depressed, it's hard to see.

But in a twist of attitude, I realize I'm here.

I can make an impact. I can learn. I can love.

And not spend one more wasted minute pursuing anything that goes against my better judgment.

Thanks for the reminder,

Phae

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Higher Education... Some ideas for those that think it is too late

by adjusted knowledge in

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so many witnesses lost the opportunity to pursue higher education in their youths.

perhaps it took decades for many here to leave and now feel it is too late.

degree you will also earn multiple certifications from other agencies:.

Phaedra

adjusted knowledge,

Thanks for your post. I concur with everything you said.

I first started attending brick and mortar college classes in my late 20s, while still a JW, after much agonizing over the frowned-upon message/programming I received as a virtual born-in about higher education from the organization. Got an associates in 2002 in something I had much passion for.

Now, on the cusp of a career change, I'm pursuing a new BA degree through WGU, after much research, and my experience has been excellent thus far. Being a ft student and working ft is hard work, but I keep thinking about my chance to fulfill something important to me and close to my heart and stick it to everyone who figured we'd be petting pandas by now.

If anyone here is interested in applying to WGU, feel free to PM me for a personal referral to waive the application fee ($65). Since I'm a current student and have unlimited referral power, I'll be happy to help out anyone I can save a few bucks to see if the school might be right for you. You'll have to give me your e-mail so I can send the referral to you, and as always, you can count on my confidentiality.

Phae

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