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  Happy 6000th post Ozzie !

  by Simon in

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  ozzie made his 6,000th poste earlier ... but unfortunately it was in the admin area so only a few of us could congratulate him.. i just want to say a big (((thank you))) for all you've added to the forum and all the work you do here.. cheers.

  - simon

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  Congratulations Ozzie

  Mrs. Shakita
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  On My 1st Anniversary, THANK YOU!

  by Swan in

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  dear friends,.

  this is my one year anniversary here on this board and i have really enjoyed it.

  i have gotten to know many of you well and have even had the privilege to have met some of you live and in person.

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  Tammy:

  Happy Anniversary to You!

  Mrs. Shakita
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  Is Having Kids Worth It?

  by Prisca in

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  ok, i'm a single female in her early 30s looking for someone to settle down with.

  i'd like to have kids, but the trouble with dating guys who are over 30 is that by now most have a kid and/or have decided they don't want any/more.

  so i am getting faced with the dilemma of maybe finding that someone special, but he may not want to have kids.

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  Worth it?

  I can only give you my personal opinion, everyone has different life experiences that will influence how much they enjoyed (or regretted) having children. I had four kids over the space of 13 years. They have been my reason for living. Nothing in life can compare to that moment when they put your newborn baby in your arms for the very first time, the love between infant and mother is like no other. This is followed by the first smile, the first baby steps, the first words, the first day of kindergarten......I can't imagine my life without all these firsts.....I am so lucky!

  There are many challenges to raising children, but I think that the good times outweigh the bad times....at least in my case....so I would say that having my kids was definitely worth it.

  I guess when you decide to have children it is important to go into it without rose colored glasses on, that way when the tough times come, you won't be too disappointed....and the tough times will come, that is just the way life is....having kids is a lot of work, but the rewards are hugs, kisses, and (if your lucky) grandchildren one day!

  Mrs. Shakita
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  Thank You all

  by plmkrzy in

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  especially stinky and six

  i am going back to the kh.

  i've been here 2 years and posted over a year trying to be supportive of everyone but some things are even too obvious for even me to not see.

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  I am so sorry that you are so lonely, plm.

  Do what you must.....and I hope you find the true friends you really are looking for. Life is so damn short, I for one, will not give you any advice one way or another. I can only speak for my own conscience. Sure, I could go back tomorrow (I am not DA'd or DF'd) and have superficial friends who care about me conditionally. I could forget how their doctrine is twisted to fit their agenda. I could ignore the society looking the other way on the child abuse problem. I could ignore the families and relationships destroyed, and the suicides that are a result of the painful shunning policies of the organization. You see.........I could never go back because my integrity would not let me....I would die of lonliness first. But, that is me. I could and would never judge your decision to return. We all make hard decisions in life and we are the ones who must live with these decisions.

  We will miss you here, and I hope that you are happy in the JW world. But, I echo dantheman, please don't contribute monetarily to an organization that promotes the destruction of decent, loving families all in the name of their Jehovah God.

  Good luck.

  Mrs. Shakita
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  Should have seen the signs...

  by breal in

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  ***the 4 door car***the inability to attend the annual family picnic on sunday ***the attitude so childish yet judgemental***

  ....funny thing is the words jw flickered in my mind on the second day i was there....and i never gave it much thought other than to wonder where the hell that came from...

  the story: i started a new job recently.

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  They're Everywhere....They're Everywhere!

  It sounds like she got some witnessing time in....

  Isn't it funny how JW's, no matter how sincere they think they are, are always so judgemental about your current status in the eyes of God....they always phrase things to sound like they are God's mouthpiece, and the main purpose is to inflict as much guilt as possible in your direction. I am surprised, too, that she asked so many questions after finding out that you are DF'd, this is a definite no-no, and she would be in for a tongue lashing by the elders if they knew.

  I would be curious to see if she continues with any religious conversation with you....post back if she does. Maybe there is some new light on speaking with DF'd ones, if not in written form(WT), maybe in the form of a letter from the society to congregations....who knows? There are an awful lot of DF'd souls running around out there to save....just think of the possibilities of increased service time and new bible studies. not to mention future profits $ .....

  Good luck at work.

  Mrs. Shakita
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  Hot Seat Series #1

  by Amazing in

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  as a complement to my justice series it seems only fitting to have judicial stories told from the perspective of those who have had to sit in the "hot seat" and face the watchtower tribunal of the three stooges ... many, maybe most, elders have never had to face a judicial committee.

  were this to have been the case, maybe we would not have the horror stories, but rather more tempered justice among jws.. .

  before i was an elder, i too faced the trinity of elders ... and sat in the infamous "hot seat" ... for what?

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  I took a seat in front of the hell to be sure that I could not hear what they were saying ...

  a Freudian slip, Amazing?

  Great post.

  Mrs. Shakita
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  Photos released for: Psychological Warfare?

  by sf in

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  foxnews just stated that part of the release was "for psychological warfare".. if that is the case then the release will have the same, if not worse, psychological ramifications on u.s. children too?.

  there is no way i want my child viewing this mindphuck bullkrap!!.

  bush wants usa to see this...to make it clear....that if you go against him and his 'laws', you will too be 'deadmeat', as viewed in these photos.. this is sick.

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  If I was one of the scores of Iraqi men, women and children who have been tortured, raped, dismembered, and murdered by Saddam's sons, I would hang up those photos in my living room and spit on them every hour on the hour.

  The Iraqi's want to see these photos....there have been interviews on TV with Iraqi's with body parts missing because of these scum who said that they want to see the pictures, they must see the pictures...they want proof that they will not be coming back to inflict more pain on them and their families. The American government is just fulfilling a request by the Iraqi people themselves to give them some closure and as much peace of mind as possible in their very frightening lives.

  Parents have a responsbility to monitor what their children see and hear, and if a parent feels that their child can not handle seeing these photos...they should prevent it. Since the Vietnam War television has been airing bloodied and mamed soldiers on the front of newspapers and television. I see nothing wrong with showing the photos of dead scum.

  Mrs. Shakita
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  I Just Don't "Fit" Anywhere!

  by pettygrudger in

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  i'm sitting at work today, listening to all the different "cliques" around me, typing here on these boards a bit (don't tell), and it occurred to me again that i just don't fit.. .

  it seems like i don't "fit" anywhere.

  i'm always on the outskirts of alot of "groups", always on the fringe, but never inside.

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  The only true "clique" I belong to is my husband & children - the most important of all.

  I agree totally.

  I have a brother who has a very successful job, makes loads of money, his own house and can basically do and go anywhere he wants. From all appearances he seems like a happy, fulfilled individual. But, the problem is that he has no one to enjoy his success with. He has said that he envies my life and family, and would trade places with me in a minute.......I know how blessed I am and would never give up my most important possessions for any amount of material wealth. Family is a blessing that no clique, job, or money can replace. We, both, are very fortunate people.

  Mrs. Shakita
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  Flies Fly From Fly - Honest`

  by Francois in

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  if this isn't the weirdest thing i've read today or any day, i'll eat your, no my, shorts.. tuesday june 24, 12:35 pm.

  'fly boy' continues to suffer as doctors struggle by indo-asian news service .

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  That poor kid...... flies really creep me out....disgusting

  Mrs. Shakita
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  First lunch with "dubs" since fading, encouragement 4 all in the 'process'

  by Its so simple in

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  well some friends, who we have been close with for a long time.

  like ourselves they have been hardcore long time servants of jehovah etc.

  asked our family to lunch today.

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  I think the fading thing is going ok for us right now because my fade was a gradual thing during a period of a few years (I was not always a very cooperative dub).....and even though my husband's was more of a quick fade, he did not hold any position of authority in the congregation so his absence was not questioned immediately. We have been visited at our home on about 4 different occasions by "concerned" brothers, but did not open our door to them because we knew that once they were in our home it would be hard to keep our mouths shut and we would be put on the defensive. That is something I refuse to accept. We have had contact with elders we have known for many years, people who we consider long time friends, but we know to keep the discussion on our terms and try to avoid trigger questions and discussions which would make trouble for our family members still in. That is our only concern. We will not let the organization manipulate us to hurt any hope that we have of getting our remaining family members out of the WT.

  If it ever comes down to a JC meeting, we have already decided that we will ignore any invitations that come our way. They will have to make a decision regarding our standing within the congregation without our help. If they decide to DF us in absentia, then we will deal with that when it comes. We have spoken with our family members still in and they told us that they would never shun us regardless of what happens in the future. I hope that this still holds true through all the crap that they will have to endure if, or when, we are pursued by "our friends".

  I will be on the watch for "the milk and cookies"....

  Mrs. Shakita